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Rejections and Anger (Part 1 of 2)

Anger is usually a product of rejections

All of us experience rejections

Rejections are normal. We all hear a lot of NO on many occasions. Some persons have difficulty handling rejections and may react hastily to the other person involved.

If you walk in a bank and apply for a loan. Then you are rejected you might stomp out the door shouting obscene talk to the lenders. This is not an appropriate way to handle the situation.

Rejections trigger emotions

This in fact can get you in trouble. And it is obvious that rejections are triggers to your emotions that enforce your anger. Now that you see this is a trigger you will need to learn how to cope with your anger and emotions.

At work

We can start with the technique to work through your anger by reducing your stress. If you are a spontaneous person then you will need to learn how to cut back on stressors.

If you feel pressured in the morning before going to work, try picking out the clothes you will wear for that day the following evening. This will provide you an extra few minutes during the morning to prepare for work.

In school

If you are running like a mad person to meet classes, then you might want to set up a schedule for yourself that includes time management. This can help you learn to prepare ahead and stay on top of things without rushing.

Instead of roaming thoughts through your head about what you, need to do each day, try handling one task at a time.

More strategies

This works wonders once you practice and continue with your strategy. When you feel angry, try taking a few deep breaths before you speak. You may also want to practice exercising since this burns energy. And it often reduces your chances of exploding when your emotions is threaten.

If you cannot handle rejections, coach your mind to believe that the person is not centering you out. Repeat over in your mind that no is a positive in many cases.

 

(TO BE CONTINUED)

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Habits Of The Unsuccessful (Part 2 of 2)

Please read the first part of the article.

 

Continuation:

 

They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure.

At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.

Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don’t have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down.

They could’ve asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they’re too proud. They don’t want to ask advice. Moreover, they’re too negative to accomplish anything.

They Waste Their Time

These are the people who do not have the idea what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives.

It’s perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.

They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.

They don’t want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don’t know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed.

If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off.

Now what successful people do

Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

 

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Be Happy (Part 2 of 2)

Please read the previous article here.

 

Continuation:

 

News is stressful, get less of it

Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended

Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time

Time is invaluable and too important to waste. We can view time management as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing.

These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday

Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -‘Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express!

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Work and have fun

Working hard hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learn

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Be active

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Stay safe

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

 

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy. And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

 

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Solution To A Problem (Part 2 of 2)

Miss out the first article? Read it here.

 

Continuation:

 

Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Be creative

Although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative. At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

There may be more solutions compare to problems

It pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Listen

Remember that old adage,” two heads are better than one.” That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you’re talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don’t have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem. If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Be patient

As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

Some exercises

Creative thinking exercises can also help you in your quest be a more creative problems solver.

Here is one example:

Take a piece of paper and write any word that comes to mind at the center. Now look at that word then write the first two words that come to your mind. This can go on until you can build a tree of related words. This helps you build analogical skills, and fortify your creative processes.

 

So, next time you see a problem you think you can not solve, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, and a whole lot of work.

 

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An Ideal Leader (Part 2 of 2)

Do not miss out the first part.

 

Continuation:

 

Not about what you make others do

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It’s about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you’re subordinates must be.

Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.

Trust and confidence

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics.

The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.

Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

The key

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you cannot be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.

Also, you cannot be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization.

Not do-it-all heroes

Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit.

Cannot be learned overnight

Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you.

Are you a leader?

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.

 

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