Ways To Prevent Procrastination Habit (Part 1 of 2)

 

A survey (by the University of Chicago) suggested that those who relish challenge are more likely to live up to 10 years longer than those who spend their lives inhibited by timidity.

Trying to realize our ambitions is preferable to not having the courage or motivation to take the risk. Not making any resolutions because we fear that we’ll break them is having a defeatist attitude. We only allow procrastination to become an insidious habit. This stops us from leading more fulfilling lives.

The following are ways to kick the procrastination habit!

Personal values development

Take the time to find out what you really want in life, what your personal values are. Do you want more time, more money, better health, greater self esteem and confidence?

How about a more fulfilling relationships, a different career, set up a business? When we procrastinate it’s often because what we are planning to do is not really aligned with what we truly want. We may be scared of our skills (or perceived lack of) or fear ridicule from others.

Make health and high energy levels a priority

Without good health we are less likely to have the energy and dynamism. Those are needed to make positive changes in our lives and it’s easier to procrastinate.

So ensure that you have a nourishing diet, sleep well, exercise and meditate. Incidentally, regular meditation helps delay the worst effects of the ageing process.

Visualize your life without procrastination

See and feel the benefits in your life if you didn’t procrastinate. What could you do and achieve? Begin to act as if you’re not a procrastinator. Write down, draw, imagine your life as a film. Use affirmations to help you.

Banish the Gremlin

That little voice which runs on auto in your head – that dismisses any idea that you might have. It says things like “I’m not in the mood” “I don’t have time” “I can’t do this”.

Stop running on auto, replace the “should’s” “oughts” “have tos” with “want to” “desire”. You have a choice. Acknowledge your choices and banish the Gremlin. Again, using affirmations can help you replace the Gremlin with more positive alternatives.

 

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Tips To Discover Your Dream (Part 2 of 2)

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Ask: “Who is this for?”

Do you want to live a dream to gain approval from others? Do you want to do it because YOU really want it for yourself? Your dream doesn’t need anyone else’s approval, it is all about YOUR life, not theirs.

Wanting approval for a dream poses a threat: What if others don’t approve? Do you make them happy or yourself happy? Have a dream because it is something you truly want to do; something that is important and gives meaning to your life because you deem it so.

Obviously, approval from others is nice. But if others don’t approve of the lifestyle you choose, then don’t let it make a difference to you

Have the courage to be yourself and live the life you deem appropriate and not the life others deem fit for you.

Your dream is something special

It should excite you, fill you with a burning passion and a determination to achieve it. If you’re lukewarm about it then chances are you won’t give it your best shot.

It should be something that you absolutely, definitely and positively HAVE to achieve. Failing to achieve it simply isn’t an option because it will make you seriously miserable and unhappy if you don’t get what you want.

It is vital that you have this commitment to your dream because a wishy-washy approach just won’t cut the mustard. Think. Plan. Write it all down. Set goals. Then take action each and every day to take you closer to your dream.

Time for me to sign off. Please don’t just read this article and then move on to something else. TAKE ACTION. Use the tips to help you identify what it is you want from life.

Remember the question:

“What, exactly, do you want to do with your life?”

Only you can provide the precise answers.

 

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Tips To Discover Your Dream (Part 1 of 2)

 

How to discover your dream. You know how? Let me ask a question. It is the most important question I can ask. I wonder if you could provide me with an answer within 10 seconds. Most people cannot.

Here it is:

What, exactly, do you want to do with your life?

A complete description of how you want to live your life including the most important goal you’d like to achieve. So answers like “make money”, “live in a big house”, or “meet someone special” have no place here.

Such vague, non-specific answers are given by most people. It is a sure sign that they haven’t identified what they really want to do with their lives.

The reason why it is so important to know the answer – in detail – to the question is because the answer reveals your dream.

Your dream is unique to you, and it represents something very important to your happiness and growth as a person. It is an expression of the real you and gives enormous meaning and purpose to your life.

So how do you know what your dream is? Many people say to me “If only I knew what I really wanted”.

If this applies to you, then here’s my top tips to identify your dream:

  1. Take the time to think seriously about what you want to do with your life. Ask yourself “How would I truly want to spend everyday if I could choose freely”. This is serious time and you should spend at least an hour everyday working out the answers to this question.
  2. On a sheet of paper, write down all the things you really enjoy doing and have a passion for. Write down all of the wonderful things you’d like to try too. For example, my list contains: working with computers, writing, motivating others to succeed, music, cooking, travel, history, the arts, farming.
  3. On another sheet of paper, write down all of the things you definitely DON’T want in your life. This is a great technique and brings clarity. For example, on my list, I have: No repetitive work, no bosses, no 9-5, no outdoor tasks, no relationships, no mysticism, no routines. Be honest with this. If you don’t like doing something, write it down. Duty has no role here; this is for you. If you don’t like doing something, write it down.

 

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Questions To Empower You (Part 1 of 2)

For most people in our society, life will hold little more than a dutiful slog in the 9-5 rat race for forty years before retiring. Many will look back on their lives and wished they’d had an opportunity to have done something different.

Some may have even had opportunities to do so but didn’t take them. One thought is very common: “I wish I could’ve done something else but I never really knew what I wanted to do.”

Sounds familiar, yes?

Relax. Because I can help you identify what it is you’d really like to do. I can show you how to begin. It all starts by asking yourself three very important questions. These questions are the most important questions you can ask yourself. Here they are:

What, EXACTLY, do I want to do?

This question gets straight to the heart of the matter and it requires SPECIFIC answers. Also, your answer should be something you have a passion for. Should be genuinely interested in and not something you think others would be impressed with.

It should be something you feel so strongly about that missing out on it will make you seriously unhappy. By this, I mean IT WILL HURT YOU DEEPLY if you don’t at least give it a shot.

Take the time to think seriously about this question. Think at least 30 minutes a day as this is the first step towards getting what you want. Be thorough. Think about how you’d like to spend each day of your life. About what you don’t want to do. What you’d like to change about how you spend your days right now.

What do I have to do to get it?

This question requires answers about the practicalities required to achieve your goal. It will cover the necessary skills. What skills do you have now that you can use and what new skills will you need to develop?

You’ll need to know about courses or training programs you’ll need to take. You’ll need to identify how much practice or study you’ll have to do.

 

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How To Determine What You Want In Life (Part 2 of 2)

Do not miss out the first part.

 

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However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart.

The poet Rumi wisely said, “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline.

It’s all a fine balance – the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.”

Listen to your instinct

Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction on things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts. Instincts are those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Your role then is to listen attentively.

Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.”

How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling.

Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve theirs dreams? Do they dream big at all?

Remember

It is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours.

There is only thing to remember: Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest life will look like.  Listen to your instincts and follow your heart’s desire. You will never go wrong.

 

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