Arguments Steal Mind Power

Arguments steal mind power. Have you ever noticed that arguments are rarely “won?” Even if you think you won an argument, what did you win?

If there really is a loser, he at least learned something, right? What did you get? Ego satisfaction, debating practice, and diminished mind power.

Arguing Diminishes Mind Power

There are times when things need to be debated, but most of the time, it really isn’t productive.

Do you want to argue the point? What do you get from a useless debate, and more importantly, what do you lose?

One thing is certain. A person listening to arguments can learn something from both sides, but what about the participants?

If your opponent makes a really good point, do you say, “Hey, you’re right!” or do you more often just look for a better argument?

Arguing too much gets you in the habit of looking for arguments more than for truth. You also get deeper into your thinking ruts the more you defend a position.

In a rut and ignoring the truth? If that doesn’t sound like it’s good for mind power, it’s because it isn’t.

Mind Power From Listening

If you say the moon is closer, and I say the sun is, one of us has to be right. If you say nurture is more important, and I say nature is, we’re both right.

The first argument has clearly defined terms. This isn’t common, and even here, what’s the point of arguing?

In the second example, our arguments have to do with values and experiences. We’ve seen different things in life, and we could spend a lifetime defining “important,” or I could shut up and listen.

My mind becomes more powerful with the addition of your ideas and knowledge. Listening is the better way.

To break the habit of arguing, purposely ask for peoples opinions, and listen without saying anything. You can ask them to clarify, but don’t offer one contrary idea.

Do this enough, and your learning will surprise you. The simple technique can be difficult, but it works.




“I aim to become the president of my country. Will be the greatest scientist. One day, I will be the richest person in the world. I aim to and so goes the list of ambitions of people.”

Nobody remembers that the final goal for each one of us is going back to earth. Let us talk more about ambitions.

Are ambitions good or bad? This is difficult to answer, isn’t it? To be an ambitious person must be very good. With ambitions a person strives to achieve a great feat. Few of us have very big ambitions and few very small. It all depends on our contentment.

What will make us feel happy? What will make us feel worthy, and what will make us feel powerful? It’s all about what we want from life.

If you want money at any cost, you will compromise with all other values and try to make more money. But if your ambition is to become an honest person and live a God fearing life, no amount of money can attract you to do any wrongs.

Ambitions therefore depend upon our character, culture, mental makeup, outlook, values and so on. Till our ambitions don’t trouble others it is okay.

If by achieving our goals, we make others happy, that is still better. But if our ambitions hurt others, we must revisit our thinking and redefine our ambitions.

When to Cut the Cord (Company Managers)


Small companies really have a raw deal when it comes to letting people go. Big companies can hold on for a much longer time, for there are so many other people to cover.

When an underperformer is finally asked to leave big company, he usually go out the door without show-stopping trauma to his colleagues, organization or the work.

In small companies, by contrast, the mistakes of bad performers usually hit the bottom line hard and real-time. When time comes to let them go, there is something that just feels too personal about it. A departure may feel like a death in the family. Even if the fired employee was more bad than good, his removal can significantly affect operations, not to mention the relations with their client.

There are only four kinds of managers, classified by how well they perform and how well they demonstrate good values, such as candor and customer service.

Managers who deliver great results and adhere to good values are easy. They should be praised and rewarded at every opportunity.

Managers with poor results but good values deserve another chance, maybe in another position within the organization.

The third kind of managers, those with great results and lousy values, are the kind that destroys the organization. They deliver numbers, but usually at the expense of their own people. Companies often keep these jerks around for way too long, destroying morale and trust as they do.

Obviously, the fourth kind of manager, who got a poor performance and poor values, is the easiest kind to fire. Should we finally get the guts to cut the cord with this manager, afterwards maybe we will wonder why we didn’t do it sooner.

Mantra 1


Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk

When you love, don’t lose the lesson.

Follow the three R’s: Respect for Self; Respect for Others; Respect for all your Actions.


Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Don’t let the little dispute injure a great relationship.

When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Spend time alone every day.

Open your arms to change, but don’t give up your values.

Remember silence is sometimes the best answer

Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

Share your knowledge, it is a way to achieve immortality.

Be gentle with the Earth.

Once a year, go to some place you’ve never been before.

Remember the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.