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An Ideal Leader (Part 2 of 2)

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Not about what you make others do

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It’s about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you’re subordinates must be.

Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.

Trust and confidence

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics.

The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.

Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

The key

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you cannot be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.

Also, you cannot be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization.

Not do-it-all heroes

Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit.

Cannot be learned overnight

Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you.

Are you a leader?

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.

 

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Conquering Your Fears (Part 3 of 3)

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What’s your “water slide”? I bet you have one, or many. We all do. What fear, if you conquered it, would allow you to have a bit more fun, experience greater success, or live life a bit more fully?

Some fears feel bigger to conquer than others. My water slide fear may not seem like the biggest fear one can have.

Having it causes me to isolate myself from the rest of my family. It even keep me from having MORE fun, joy and exhilaration in my life.

The moral lesson

Conquering your fears, one by one, builds confidence and increases your quality of life. Don’t let your fears hold you back from living the life you wish you were living.

Tips For Conquering Your Fears

  1. Recognize a fear is present
  2. Declare you are going to conquer the fear
  3. Expect to feel anxious, awkward and scared
  4. Consider copying a style you like until you find your own style
  5. Focus your attention
  6. Motivate yourself with affirmations
  7. Step into the fear with abandon
  8. Let go and have fun!
  9. Remind yourself to keep breathing
  10. Pat yourself on the back when it’s over
  11. Notice how much easier it gets

When you have time, take a personal inventory of the fears keeping you from living the life you want. Then make a commitment and challenge yourself to face and conquer one them that’s been holding you back.

Use the tips above to guide your way. To get started, see if any from the list below fit you:

Common fears

  1. Admitting mistakes or wrong-doings
  2. Adventure
  3. Being inadequate/not good enough
  4. Doing something you’ve never done before
  5. Expressing yourself
  6. Failure
  7. Healing emotional wounds
  8. Health concerns
  9. Money/finances
  10. Never having enough
  11. Public speaking
  12. Promoting yourself
  13. Saying “NO”
  14. Sharing your feelings
  15. Taking a risk, such as starting a business or changing careers
  16. Traveling

 

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Conquering Your Fears (Part 2 of 3)

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I focused my attention on the cute and fearless little girl in front of me. I motivated myself by repeating the mantra, “if she can do it, I can do it”.

As we reached the top of the slide, I watched in amazement as she sprang from the last step to a lying down, torpedo style position in one fell swoop. As soon as the little girl shot out of sight it was my turn.

The time had come – it was now or never. Copying the little girl before me. I laid down on the slide feet first torpedo style and as I did I heard the words… Don’t fight it, just let yourself go.

As I whooshed down the slide I reminded myself I was OK, to keep breathing and to relax. As I let my body go it seemed to understand what was expected of it. It conformed to the twists and turns of the slide. It only seemed to tighten in response to my fearful thoughts.

Then I did it!

Soon, I could see the end of the ride was near. I flew off the end of the slide into the waiting water, I knew I conquered my fear!

WOW! I did it! I went down a water slide. It was a blast! My husband told me later, as I was coming down, he could hear me screaming and laughing.

All I could remember was feeling gripped by fear, exhilaration and pure joy as my body whirled down the watery, slippery path.

Now, I felt ready for more. Once wasn’t enough. The second time up the stairs was much easier. I took my position at the top of the slide with much more confidence.

The ride down the second time was even more fun because now I knew the curves and the bumps. I navigated the challenge with a bit more grace. I felt proud of myself for taking action and for doing something I thought I would never do.

 

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Conquering Your Fears (Part 1 of 3)

Conquering your fears. Can you? Have you ever had a fear that kept you from living life fully? Perhaps this fear has stopped you from having MORE fun or experiencing GREATER success. Yes? You’re not alone. I have too.

Let me tell you a story from a great friend:

Fear that stops enjoying life to the fullest

The fear I conquered in the story below may not be my biggest fear. But with a little reflection I saw how it really stopped me from enjoying my family and life to the fullest.

It also taught me a valuable lesson of how taking steps to overcome my fear resulted in increased self confidence.

At the end of my story, I’ll give you tips for conquering your own fears.

Not the biggest fear

A few weekends ago my husband and I took our daughter Kasie, and my nephew Zach, to a water park. We all love the water and were having a blast until my hubby and the kids took off for. Those are the water slides.

As they enthusiastically ran to the slides I slowed way down. In fact, I stopped, found a chair and proceeded to organize our belongings.

As I settled into a lawn chair I saw Kasie and Zach whoosh down their side-by-side slides and plunge, feet first, into the cool water. They quickly resurfaced, sputtering and laughing and ready for more.

As Zach jumped out of the pool to run back up the stairs he looked at me laughing. Then he said, “Cari’s being a wimp.” He was right. I was.

You see, even though I love the water I’ve always been afraid of — water slides.

Time has come to make a choice

On this particular day however, the kid pressure was too great. I decided it was the time and place to conquer my old fear. As I hurried to the steps my chest tightened and my breathing became very shallow.

Each step I took to reach the top of the slide made me feel anxious, awkward and scared to death.

 

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Questions To Empower You (Part 2 of 2)

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Other considerations will be things like location as you may have to move somewhere else. People you need to connect with, making contacts, networking. Also some equipment or anything you find that is a necessary part of achieving your goal.

What things i need to prepare to achieve success?

Now you identified what you want to do and what this will entail. You then need to decide what you’re going to give to make your dream happen. Success demands a price.

In particular, we have the 3 kings: Time, Money and Commitment. How much time are willing to spend? Are you willing to sacrifice other activities to free up more time?

Time

Time is the most precious resource you have and it is a non-renewable resource. It is important you give a significant portion of your free time to the pursuit of your goal.

Money

Next comes money. You will have to prepare to invest money in your project – IN YOURSELF – to make progress. This could mean purchasing equipment, attending seminars, courses, property, books, raw materials etc. Without such an investment, it is unlikely your project will get off the ground.

Commitment

Finally, how committed are you to making your dream happen? If you’re serious about getting the lifestyle and success you truly want, you must be 100% committed to it. This will mean making sacrifices. Friends, socializing, working long hours, working weekends in short. Sacrificing many of the things you enjoy doing today so you can create a better tomorrow.

If you love something and you want to achieve a high standard of success, you will have to devote lots and lots of time to it and place it above everything else. Are you prepared to do this?

 

You now have three empowering questions to help you start on creating a new life for yourself. Please make the time to think seriously about the your answers. You will reap the rewards.

 

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