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Learning To Trust Yourself (Part 2 of 3)

Please read the previous article:

Learning To Trust Yourself (Part 1 of 3)

 

Continuation:

 

When we make decisions, there are times the red flags are there, and we ignore them

A real story of one of my childhood girl friends

All the warning signs were there before she married her ex-husband. She can distinctly remember feeling extremely apprehensive the morning of their wedding. She even called me in tears because of something the ex-husband had said to her that morning.

Despite the negative character qualities, she went through with the marriage. She convinced herself that it was the right choice for their little boy, who was only one then. Within one year, they we were separated.

Other times we truly make the best decision we can

Ask any successful entrepreneur about her process of decision making. He will probably tell you he weighed all the pros and cons and tried to anticipate any problems.

He might have looked to the experts for helpful insight. In the end, he made the most informed decision he could. If you ask him if all his decisions were the right ones, he will tell you no.

Life changes; people change. Just because something doesn’t work out the way you wanted does not mean you cannot trust yourself in the future.

Trusting yourself is essential to loving yourself

You know yourself better than anyone and no one is going to take care of you except you. Until you trust yourself, you will not be able to fully trust anyone.

This is again a story of another good childhood girl friend of mine:

For a very long time, every morning her husband would come downstairs before leaving for work. Then he will ask my friend how his hair looked. She (my friend) would tell him it looked fine.

He would go to work and other people would tell him his hair looked good. However, other people or his wife (my friend) could do nothing to convince him that his hair was okay.

He would even say to her, “I don’t know if I can believe people when they say my hair looks good”.

His distrust to anyone is due to his distrust to himself. He was not comfortable with his hair, so he assumed everyone else felt the same way as him.

 

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Learning To Trust Yourself (Part 3 of 3)

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Conquering Your Fears (Part 1 of 3)

Conquering your fears. Can you? Have you ever had a fear that kept you from living life fully? Perhaps this fear has stopped you from having MORE fun or experiencing GREATER success. Yes? You’re not alone. I have too.

Let me tell you a story from a great friend:

Fear that stops enjoying life to the fullest

The fear I conquered in the story below may not be my biggest fear. But with a little reflection I saw how it really stopped me from enjoying my family and life to the fullest.

It also taught me a valuable lesson of how taking steps to overcome my fear resulted in increased self confidence.

At the end of my story, I’ll give you tips for conquering your own fears.

Not the biggest fear

A few weekends ago my husband and I took our daughter Kasie, and my nephew Zach, to a water park. We all love the water and were having a blast until my hubby and the kids took off for. Those are the water slides.

As they enthusiastically ran to the slides I slowed way down. In fact, I stopped, found a chair and proceeded to organize our belongings.

As I settled into a lawn chair I saw Kasie and Zach whoosh down their side-by-side slides and plunge, feet first, into the cool water. They quickly resurfaced, sputtering and laughing and ready for more.

As Zach jumped out of the pool to run back up the stairs he looked at me laughing. Then he said, “Cari’s being a wimp.” He was right. I was.

You see, even though I love the water I’ve always been afraid of — water slides.

Time has come to make a choice

On this particular day however, the kid pressure was too great. I decided it was the time and place to conquer my old fear. As I hurried to the steps my chest tightened and my breathing became very shallow.

Each step I took to reach the top of the slide made me feel anxious, awkward and scared to death.

 

Continue reading Part 2 and Last Part.

Odd and True VI

 

Caution: Please make sure you’ve eaten your meals before reading

 

Headhunters in Borneo would mark one finger joint with a blue dot for each victim they had killed. Chief Temenggong Koh had completely blue hands by the time of his death in the late 20th Century.

 

The Sausa Tribe from Peru would skin their enemies, before filling the skin with ash, sewing it back up and displaying the stuffed skin as a trophy and status symbol.

 

The feared Wa Tribe from the jungles of Burma (Myanmar) would regularly cut off people’s heads, and did so up until the 1970s, as they thought the severed heads prevented disease and brought good luck.

 

Some of the most unbelievable discoveries of Robert Ripley made on his travels were the shrunken heads of South America. The Jivaro Tribes of Ecuador and Peru would take the heads of fallen enemies, remove the skin whole, and shrink it to the size of a fist. Tsantas, as the shrunken heads were known locally, were used to banish the vengeful spirits of their previous owners, with their lips sewn shut to stop the spirits from escaping. When Western tourists began to visit the area in the 19th and 20th Century centuries, a demand for gruesome souvenirs fueled the practice, and it is said that people were killed just to keep up the supply. Robert Ripley later reported in his journal that a German scientist who attempted to find Jivaro headhunters came out of the forest as nothing more than a shrunken head with a red beard. A TV documentary team recently unearthed a Polish videotape from the early 1960s that not only seemed to prove that tsantas were still being made by the Jivaro tribe at the time, but also provides remarkable video footage of the head-shrinking process. The Jivaro used to take a decapitated head and make an incision in the back of the scalp so that they could slice the skin, flesh and hair off the bone, making sure it remained intact. Then they take the boneless head, sew the eyelids shut, and seal the mouth with wooden pegs. The next part of the process involved boiling the head for no less than two hours in herbs that contained tannin to dry out the head. Once removed from the boil, the flesh was scraped from the skin and the head was shrunk further with hot rocks and sand, before being gradually molded back into its original shape. Finally, the mouth was sewn and shut with string and for the head dried over a fire for several days.

Odd and True V

 

Maori Tribes of New Zealand used to mummify heavily tattooed heads of warrior adversaries, skin, hair, teeth and other body parts. Maori warriors would collect them as trophies the decapitated, tattooed heads of notable enemies they killed in a battle, and the heads of their own dead leaders and family members were also removed and treated with respect – sometimes to prevent other tribes escaping with them. It has been reported that entire bodies were preserved, although none remain. Maori facial tattoos, known as Ta Moko, were a long and painful process, which made use of carved bone chisels to make cuts in the face. In order to mummify a head, the Maoris would first remove the brain and the eyes from the decapitated head. Then the empty skull and eye sockets were stuffed with plant fibers. The head was then dried over a period of 24 hours using boiling, steaming and smoking methods. In the 18th Century, European visitors began to buy the skulls as interesting artifacts, and soon the trade in mummified Ta Moko became so popular that appropriately tattooed enemies were killed solely in order to supply the market with fresh heads. This murderous practice was eventually outlawed in the 19th Century.

 

The journalist Paul Raffaele reported in 2006 that he had discovered a modern headhunter tribe on the island of New Guinea that still removed the heads of their enemies and cannibalized their remains, and they have the skulls to prove it.

 

The ancient Greek historian Herodotus wrote of a nomadic tribe in Iran that killed and ate members of their community when they became old and weak, cooking them with their cattle. According to his writings, this was the way they preferred to go.

 

In 1995, two climbers in the Andes discovered the mummified body of a young girl, frozen solid on the side of Mount Ampato. Although it is thought she died in the 15th Century, her body was remarkably well preserved.

 

Headhunting rituals took place in Europe well into the 29th Century. Tribes in Montenegro would remove the heads of the people they had killed to prevent them receiving a proper burial.

Odd and True IV

 

A woman who had been playing with a friendly bottlenose dolphin called Mako in the sea off Mahia Beach on New Zealand’s North Island got into difficulty when the dolphin stopped her from returning to shore. Her cries for help eventually alerted rescuers who rowed out to find her exhausted and cold, clinging to a buoy. Locals say the dolphin gets lonely in the winter when there are fewer people around and just wanted to keep playing.

 

9 years ago, police in Adelaide, Australia, investigated a series if thefts involving cucumbers. More than $8,500 worth of cucumbers were stolen in 11 separate burglaries on market gardens over a period of three months.

 

In 2002, Mike McDermott from Hampshire, England won the lottery twice with the same numbers, beating the odds of 5.4 trillion to one.

 

An elderly Japanese businessman lost $4 million in cash when a thief found it buried in his garden.

 

A man who robbed a Walnut Creek, California bank in July 2009 apparently felt so guilty that three days later he walked into a church, confessed to the crime and handed over &1,200 to a priest before leaving.

 

A ram in Helgoysund, Norway was stranded 15 feet (4.5 meters) up a telegraph pole for an hour after it tried to abseil down an electricity cable to reach a field of ewes. The lovelorn sheep slid down the cable from a higher field with his horn stuck on the wire, before stopping against a pole. Eventually, a group of German tourists managed to loop a rope around the sheep and lower it to the ground.

 

Eleanor Benz, who dropped out of high school to help her family during the Great Depression, finally received her diploma in 2009 – 73 years later. She left Chicago’s Lake View High School at age of 17 to take a job, but at her 90th birthday party she was presented with the diploma, gown and cap, complete with 1936 tassel.