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Rejections and Anger (Part 2 of 2)

Do not miss out the previous article, read below:

Rejections and Anger (Part 1 of 2)

 

Continuation:

 

There must be reasons

For example, if you are married, you enjoy going to the bar to chat with your friends. And then your husband does not want you to go, and then think why he said no?

Obviously, your husband cares about you since he knows that danger is potentially high at bars. He does not want you to get hurt therefore, he is saying no in your best interest.

If the bank turns you down on a loan there is a legit reason. Maybe your credit report needs some repairing, or maybe they felt you income would not cover the loan amount.

Therefore, your best interest was at heart again. We all hear no throughout our lifetime and most times, it is for the best reasons.

If you apply for a job and are turned down, it might be in your best interest. Since the employers felt that your skills were not on the level that the job required of you.

Alternatively, you may be over qualified for the job and when you are rejected. Maybe the employers are merely saying we do not have the cash to pay you for what you are worth. Thinking positive is always great for managing anger.

Do not get too emotional

If you are prompt to explode when your emotions are interrupted then it is difficult to manage your life. If you are angry most likely, all areas of your life seem like an uphill travel.

When you gain control this often benefits everyone, including yourself. Your life starts to improve and your mind is thanking you for removing stress from its cavity.

If you are prone to beat yourself up when rejections come your way, you might want to find a positive side of your being and enforce it in your mind repeatedly.

Practice, practice, practice

Practice makes perfect. This is a great way to train your mind so that you gain control of your mind and anger. If you are frustrated easily, it is probably because you do not take time out of a day for yourself to relax.

There is nothing wrong with relaxing. Therefore you can sit down for 30 minutes each day and yoga or think of nothing at all.

Finally, we are closing so I wanted to let you know that once you practice the strategies for dealing with anger, pat yourself on the back each time you make effort and achieve.

 

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Tips To Discover Your Dream (Part 1 of 2)

 

How to discover your dream. You know how? Let me ask a question. It is the most important question I can ask. I wonder if you could provide me with an answer within 10 seconds. Most people cannot.

Here it is:

What, exactly, do you want to do with your life?

A complete description of how you want to live your life including the most important goal you’d like to achieve. So answers like “make money”, “live in a big house”, or “meet someone special” have no place here.

Such vague, non-specific answers are given by most people. It is a sure sign that they haven’t identified what they really want to do with their lives.

The reason why it is so important to know the answer – in detail – to the question is because the answer reveals your dream.

Your dream is unique to you, and it represents something very important to your happiness and growth as a person. It is an expression of the real you and gives enormous meaning and purpose to your life.

So how do you know what your dream is? Many people say to me “If only I knew what I really wanted”.

If this applies to you, then here’s my top tips to identify your dream:

  1. Take the time to think seriously about what you want to do with your life. Ask yourself “How would I truly want to spend everyday if I could choose freely”. This is serious time and you should spend at least an hour everyday working out the answers to this question.
  2. On a sheet of paper, write down all the things you really enjoy doing and have a passion for. Write down all of the wonderful things you’d like to try too. For example, my list contains: working with computers, writing, motivating others to succeed, music, cooking, travel, history, the arts, farming.
  3. On another sheet of paper, write down all of the things you definitely DON’T want in your life. This is a great technique and brings clarity. For example, on my list, I have: No repetitive work, no bosses, no 9-5, no outdoor tasks, no relationships, no mysticism, no routines. Be honest with this. If you don’t like doing something, write it down. Duty has no role here; this is for you. If you don’t like doing something, write it down.

 

Continue reading the wonderful last part.

Journey To The Top (Part 1 of 3)

Are you looking for career growth? Are you targeting your boss’ seat or maybe even his/her boss’ seat?! If so, it shows you have the passion and the desire to lead. You want to be empowered to deliver results.

This article is for people who are aspiring to get to the top and also for people at the top who are looking for their successors.

People get motivated by different things and for different reasons to get to the top

For some, it could be the job title, the car, social status, an improved standard of living or even a fat pay check. While for others it could be the challenge in itself, or an opportunity to learn and grow or an opportunity to make a difference.

Whatever your motivation, always remain motivated, particularly in crunch moments, along your journey to the top!

I often come across people who share with me their desire to grow. However, they mostly look for instant solutions in a ‘2-minute noodle economy’. In such situations I also give an instant ‘pep’ talk! The deeper you explore the more you discover, for example, absorbing a 2-mins pep-talk can be easy, but applying the principles is the tough part.

You first need to ‘be’ and then earn what you intend ‘being’

For instance, pilots initially learn flying, not by actually flying in a real plane, but in simulators on the ground. Simulate some of the key characteristics you observe in your chosen role model, but not only the way the person talks or dresses. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Go deeper. Understand what happens at the top. It is a very different playing field from where you currently sit and see.

The nearest way to glory – a shortcut, as it were:

“is to strive to be what you wish to be thought to be”

— Socrates (469-399 BC) Greek Philosopher

Here are four key perspectives from the top. Simulate them and deliver on your desires:

Get things done

Effective bosses get things done. Yes, they may seem to have more ‘authority’ than people down the line, but never forget, no one enjoys absolute power. At every level there are challenges. The higher up you go in the corporate ladder, the more authority you end up having. But the demands placed upon you are equally big.

 

Continue reading Second and Last Part.

Fear and Reason (Part 4 of 4)

Missed out the previous post? Read them here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.

 

Continuation:

When a belief or a hallucination refuses to permit you to hear the warning of nerves and muscles, nature will work disaster inevitably. Let us stand for the larger liberty.

It is joyously free to take advantage of everything nature may offer for true well-being. There is a partial liberty which tries to realize itself by denying various realities as real. There is a higher liberty which really realizes itself by conceding such realities as real. By using or disusing them as occasion may require in the interest of the self at its best.

True wisdom

  1. Take advantage of everything which evidently promises good to the self, without regard to this or that theory.
  2. Freely to use all things, material or immaterial, reasonable or spiritual.
  3. Embrace your science or your method
  4. Ignore your bondage to philosophy or to consistency.

So I say that to normal health the weary-sense is a rational command to replenish exhausted nerves and muscles.

Pain

It is not liberty, it is not healthful, to declare, “There is no pain!” Pain does exist, whatever you affirm, and your affirmation that it does not is proof that it does exist. For why and how declare the non-existence of that which actually is non-existent?

But if you say, “As a matter of fact I have pain, but I am earnestly striving to ignore it. To cultivate thought-health so that the cause of pain may be removed,” that is sane and beautiful.

This is the commendable attitude of the Bible character who cried: “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.”

To undertake swamping pain with a cloud of psychological fog is to turn anarchist against nature. By pain nature informs the individual that he is somewhere out of order. This warning is normal.

The feeling becomes abnormal in the mind when imagination twangs the nerves with reiterated irritation. It will confused by the discord and the psychic chaos, cowers and shivers with fear.

Fear does exists

I do not say there is no such thing as fear. Fear does exist. But it exists in your life by your permission only, not because it is needful as a warning against “evil.”

Fear is induced by unduly magnifying actual danger, or by conjuring up fictitious dangers through excessive and misdirected psychical reactions. This also may be taken as a signal of danger, but it is a falsely-intentioned witness.

It is not needed, and is hostile to the individual because it threatens self-control. It also absorbs life’s forces in useless and destructive work when they ought to be engaged in creating values.

 

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Personal Development Gives You The Power To Create Miracles (Part 1 of 3)

 

The power of personal development is available to everyone. It is available to you whether you understand its internal workings or not. There is no need to be skilled in self-improvement to achieve amazing results from applying a few simple techniques from its mighty arsenal.

You can, right now, begin to create miracles in your life without ever having to probe the depths of personal growth. Get ready now to learn the secrets of personal development, apply some of its simple techniques and perform miracles in your life!

There are people from every walk of life who are performing miracles every day. You may have heard the stories of a woman lifting the full weight of a car to save her child or a man walking again after years in a wheelchair.

Perhaps you have heard of the British man whose body miraculously cured itself of AIDS or the men and women around the world who have found their cancer dissolve. You may even have heard of stranger things happening in places like India and Tibet.

However, you may be unaware of the miracles that ordinary people, just like you and me, are performing all over the planet. Miracles like, turning financial ruin into avalanches of wealth and abundance, finding soul mates and healing illness.

Miracles are happening right now where men and women are; rekindling failing or failed relationships; healing old emotional wounds that have been carried for decades; finally reaching all there long cherished goals.

Would you like to be one of them?

The power of miracles does not lie in some long and almost forgotten past of avatars and saints. Nor does it lie in some distant mystical land or with metaphysical warriors who had studied ancient hidden arts for decades. The power of miracles lies right here in the present. Your power is in the NOW!

The reason why so many people fail to gain results from tried-and-tested techniques such as visualization, affirmations, hypnosis, subliminal programming etc., is because they are constantly living in the past. They allow hurts from the past to impinge upon the present. Every negative thought or feeling that you have is based in the past.

It is experiences that you had in your past that lead you to form that way of thinking and feeling. You must learn to release these hurts.

 

Continue reading Part 2 and Part 3.