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Fear and Reason (Part 3 of 4)

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Fear, anyone?

The reaction has always a good intention, meaning, in each case, “Take care! Danger!” You will see that this if you will look for a moment at three kinds of fear. Those are fear of self, fear for self, fear for others.

Fear of self is indirectly fear for self-danger. Fear for others signifies fore sensed or fore pictured distress to self because of anticipated misfortune to others. I often wonder when we fear for others, it is distress to self or hurt to them. More often than not, that is most emphatically in our thoughts.

Fear, then, is usually regarded as the soul’s danger signal. But the true signal is instinctive and thoughtful reason.

Even instinct and reason, acting as warning, may perform their duty abnormally, or assume abnormal proportions. And then we have the feeling of fear. The normal warning is induced by actual danger apprehended by mind in a state of balance and self-control.

Normal mind is always capable of such warning. There are two ways in which so-called normal fear acting in the guise of reason, may be annihilated. It can be by the substitution of reason for fear, and by the assurance of the white life.

Normal fear

Normal fear means normal reason real fear being denied place and function altogether. Then we may say that such action of reason is a benefactor to man. It is, with pain and weariness, the philanthropy of the nature of things within us.

One person said: “Tired? No such word in my house!” Now this cannot be a sound and healthy attitude. Weariness, at a certain stage of effort, is a signal to stop work. When one is too busy then lose consciousness of the feeling of weariness, he has issued a “hurry call” on death.

I do not deny that the soul may cultivate a sublime sense of buoyancy and power; rather do I urge you to seek that beautiful condition.

 

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Fear and Reason (Part 2 of 4)

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“Everyone can testify that the psychical state called fear consists of mental representations of certain painful results.”

-William James

The mental representations may be very faint as such, but the idea of hurt to self is surely present. It is a belief that the real self cannot be hurt. The reason can be brought to consider vividly and believing all quieting considerations.

How to remove fear “as far as the east is from the west”

  1. If the self can hold consciously in the assurance that the White Life surrounds the true self
  2. If surely within that self, and will suffer “no evil to come night,”
  3. All the instincts of self preservation may be perfectly active

Ways for fear may be divided

As a warning and as a maker of panic. The warning should be understood as given to reason. Fear need not appear at all, and that the panic is perfectly useless pain. With these discrimination in mind, we may now go on to a preliminary study of fear.

Fear is an impulse, a habit, and a disease.

Fear, as it exists in man, is a make-believe of sanity, a creature of the imagination, a state of insanity. Furthermore, fear is, now of the nerves, now of the mind, now of the moral consciousness.

The division depends upon the point of view. “Normal fear” should give place to reason, using the word to cover instinct as well as thought. From the correct point of view all fear is an evil so long as entertained.

Whatever manifestations, wherever apparent location, fear is a psychic state. Fear reacts upon the individual in several ways. In the nerves, in mental moods, in a single impulse, in a chronic habit, in a totally unbalanced condition.

 

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Fear and Reason (Part 1 of 4)

 

We have all heard the seemingly discriminating remarks that fear is normal and abnormal. Normal fear is to be regarded as a friend, while abnormal fear should be destroyed as an enemy.

“In civilized life it has at last become possible for large numbers of people to pass from the cradle to the grave without ever having had a pang of genuine fear. Many of us need an attack of mental disease to teach us the meaning of the word.”

– William James

The fact is that no “normal fear” can be named which has not been clearly absent in some people. People who have had every cause there for. Running over human history in your mind, or look about in the present life.

You will find persons who in situations or before objects which ought, as any fearful soul will insist. It will inspire the feeling of at least normal self-protecting fear. Nevertheless wholly without the feeling. They possess every feeling and thought demanded except fear.

Self-preservation

The idea of self-preservation is strongly present as with the most abjectly timid or terrified, but fear they don’t know. This fearless awareness of fear suggesting conditions may be due to several causes. It may result from constitutional make-up, or from long continued training or habituation.

Maybe from religious ecstasy, or from a perfectly calm sense of spiritual self-hood which is unhurtable. Can also from the action of very exalted reason. Whatever the explanation fact remains.

The very causes which excite fear in most of us, merely appeal, with such people, if at all. To the instinct of self-preservation and to reason. The thought-element of the soul which makes for personal peace and wholeness.

Banish all fear

Such considerations that I have come to hold that all real fear-feeling will and may banish from our life. “Normal fear” should be substituted in our language by “instinct” or by “reason,” the element of fear being dropped altogether.

 

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The Power Of Acceptance

 

Inevitably in life we will have to face disappointment from time to time. Sometimes they may be little disappointments, and other times they may be great, big, heart wrenching disappointments. When this happens to us, we have a choice in how we react. Some of us may give up on our dreams, others may keep fighting stubbornly against the tide, and still others may choose another path to travel.

One important aspect of dealing with disappointment is acceptance. When we keep fighting against our circumstances and disappointments, it can leave us feeling frustrated, bitter and exhausted. Especially during those times in life when everything seems to keep going wrong for us, we get more and more stressed as we try to resist the undesirable circumstances.

Practicing acceptance can help ease that inner tension and allow us to see our situation more clearly. Accepting your circumstances does not mean giving up! It does not mean that you have to be 100% happy with your current situation. Acceptance means that you acknowledge and accept where you are in your life at this moment, even though it may not be ideal.

Maybe you hate your job or your marriage is faltering. Maybe you are struggling to lose weight and can’t seem to get anywhere with it. Whatever it is that is causing you stress, try accepting it instead of fighting against it. Repeat the following to yourself: “I may not be thrilled with the way things are in my life right now, but I accept it. I will do what I can and give the rest to God. I am thankful for the blessings I do have right now, and I know that more are on the way.”

It may take a lot of patience at the beginning, but as you continue to do this, something amazing happens. The struggles suddenly don’t seem so large anymore. They won’t magically dissolve before your eyes, but the edges seem to soften a bit. Life doesn’t seem quite so harsh anymore. Solutions to the problems may even begin to appear. If that doesn’t happen right away, that’s okay! Know that they will eventually. Just keep practicing acceptance and have faith that things will turn around.

I believe that everything happens for a reason. We are where we are in our lives right now because we are meant to be here. Several factors may have contributed to our current circumstances, such as choices we made in the past, or outside influences we have no control over. The questions to ask yourself are: What is the lesson here? What do I need to learn about this situation? Though you may not be happy with your current situation, there IS a reason you are there right now.

This is especially true if you continuously find yourself in similar situations! For example, if you keep choosing unhealthy relationships, you might want to take some time to discover why. If you are always struggling financially, there may be a message for you there. If you can’t seem to figure it out on your own, you might consider seeking professional help. Sometimes an outside party can see things that we can’t.

No matter what difficulties you are struggling with right now, know that this too shall pass. Difficulties do not last forever. Oftentimes, struggles are opportunities in disguise..

Real Friend

 

‘Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.’

A sharp tongue can cut your own throat.

If you want your dreams to come true, you mustn’t oversleep.

Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.

The best vitamin for making friends….. B1.

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.

One thing you can give and still keep…is your word.

You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself

If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.

One thing you can’t recycle is wasted time.

Ideas won’t work unless ‘ You’ do.

Your mind is like a parachute…it functions only when open..

The 10 commandments are not a multiple choice.

The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been.

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right.. Forget about the one’s who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we’ve let them fly away. Sometimes we are so caught up in who’s right and who’s wrong that we forget what’s right and wrong. Sometimes we just don’t realize what real friendship means until it is too late. I don’t want to let that happen so I’m gonna tie you to my heart so I never lose you.

You are not forgotten, at least not by me….

I may not be by your side in person, but you are always on my mind

I may not be there, flesh and bones but my thoughts are with you