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Future Plans or Dreams?

Rationale

People tend to look in the future with perspective. That is, probably, a remarkable characteristics of human beings.

Sure, very often future seems quite vague and uncertain, which makes people feel distressed and at a loss. For this reason we plan events and dream of achieving best results in what we plan.

The dream

So, what is the key difference between a future plan and a dream? A dream has some special taste or smell, whatever. It is very often our fantasy, our cherished desire, some crazy wish.

We may know that we’ll never get what we dream about but still have and keep our dream for quite a long time.

Moreover, some really funny things can turn into dreams for someone, like having a bath full of macaroni (as it was described in one movie), and a person will live the entire life with such a dream.

Plans

Plans are considered to be much more down-to-earth. Nowadays planning is everywhere: when at job we have daily schedule, even household chores are planned.

But of course there are more “global-like” or serious plans, like buying a house at the seaside in 10 years or so. The latter example can be attributed to both dreams and plans.

Thus a dream can turn into a plan, if you have some strategy of achieving your aim. There is one more aspect: plans are not always what we really want to get; very often we have to plan unpleasant things for us.

A school-boy plans to write his final essay by the deadline, but that’s not what he wants to do. Well, he wants to get a good result, but the whole process may be far from pleasant for him.

However, the plan is with him. A new bike can be a dream for this boy, if his family is not rich or is against such presents. Still, this dream can soon transform into a plan.

As we see, plans and dreams, despite some differences, are often inter-connected and inter-dependant. That is because they have one important thing in common: they are about future, which is indeed uncertain.

Because of such uncertainty, dreams at times turn to be more realistic than plans. That’s life.

We dream then plan

Since childhood we dream and plan. We want to open at least a small slot in the doors to the future; that is the sweetness of uncertainty, which may end with bitterness or a greater sweetness.

Anyway, both planning and dreaming follow us in the course of our whole life, because they give us grounds, which is more, they provide us with a reason for living.

 

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Why Should You Set Goals? (Part 1 of 2)

The big WHY

Wonder why some people could not even achieve an inch of what they dream of becoming? Blame it on pure dreaming and lack of setting goals for achieving their dreams.

Setting goals is a very significant part of success and positive accomplishments. It is like scaling a 20 feet building. And then marking early on what feet you would like to reach at this specific period.

How people usually start in setting goals

People who set goals literally create a map of their target achievements in life. They do the marking where they should begin and where to pause. Where to delve a bit, and where and when to stop.

Once this map is created, it allows the map drawer to check where he is in the scheme of things. He will see whether or not he is making some achievements that will take him closer to his goals.

One good reason

By setting goals, people will know how they are doing. As well as what they should be doing to achieve their targets or dreams in life. They will know if they can relax. They will know if they have to double their efforts. He know when he is falling short of expectations.

Proactive person

Goal setting means a person is proactive in dealing with challenges that may affect his plans. Being proactive means one is able to outline possible difficulties that may occur as well as the solutions to these difficulties.

By doing this, a person is not easily afraid when challenges occur because he is prepare to face for them. He knows they can happen and he has prepared a solution or strategy when that time comes.

Setting goals will enable people to track their progress in whatever endeavor they have set out to do. It will help people become more confident in themselves and more motivated to achieve their plans.

 

(TO BE CONTINUED)

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Emotions

Emotion is no longer a dirty word

When I tell some people that we perceive and communicate emotionally and then give logical reasons for it, they are quick to deny it. However, salespeople know this to be true. Emotion is no longer a dirty word.

They learn that people buy for emotional reasons and then rationalize the purchase. Showing someone why he or she needs the item or service will not get you as far as showing him or her why he or she wants it.

The same semantics’ happen with perceptions and communication. When we look at the physiology of perceptions, we learn that our clearest memories are ones that have an emotional context to it.

The is a reason. Anything that is highly emotional will come through the amygdala in our brain. Whether it is from fear or love, anxiety or excitement.

Other sensory information will come directly from the brain stem to the hippocampus. And a more select version will come from the cortex.

So whether it was a happy memory (weddings, special vacation, birth of a child), or a sad memory (death, injury), we hold clear details of what we were doing at the time.

Many people fight hearing this because “emotional” was considered a dirty word for a long time. This group still relates to the old meaning. To them it is about being out of control, or even weak and unstable.

Emotion, the new definition

Most people are coming around and seeing it in a new light and as a word that can help them. Those who follow Meta or Quantum physics understand the importance of this word.

How it is part of the secret, which many successful people are using to acquire what they want in life.

We are taught that clear thought and communication with ourselves, combined with feeling or strong emotional desire, is the path to achieving our dreams and desires.

That everything starts with a thought and then the feeling or the emotion brings it into fruition. It is the half of the equation that many people are missing due to their dislike of the word.

But what if you looked at emotion in a new light? What if you saw it as your strength? And what if you saw it as a tool for all you wish to achieve?

 

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Fear and Reason (Part 3 of 4)

Please read the first part and second part.

 

Continuation:

Fear, anyone?

The reaction has always a good intention, meaning, in each case, “Take care! Danger!” You will see that this if you will look for a moment at three kinds of fear. Those are fear of self, fear for self, fear for others.

Fear of self is indirectly fear for self-danger. Fear for others signifies fore sensed or fore pictured distress to self because of anticipated misfortune to others. I often wonder when we fear for others, it is distress to self or hurt to them. More often than not, that is most emphatically in our thoughts.

Fear, then, is usually regarded as the soul’s danger signal. But the true signal is instinctive and thoughtful reason.

Even instinct and reason, acting as warning, may perform their duty abnormally, or assume abnormal proportions. And then we have the feeling of fear. The normal warning is induced by actual danger apprehended by mind in a state of balance and self-control.

Normal mind is always capable of such warning. There are two ways in which so-called normal fear acting in the guise of reason, may be annihilated. It can be by the substitution of reason for fear, and by the assurance of the white life.

Normal fear

Normal fear means normal reason real fear being denied place and function altogether. Then we may say that such action of reason is a benefactor to man. It is, with pain and weariness, the philanthropy of the nature of things within us.

One person said: “Tired? No such word in my house!” Now this cannot be a sound and healthy attitude. Weariness, at a certain stage of effort, is a signal to stop work. When one is too busy then lose consciousness of the feeling of weariness, he has issued a “hurry call” on death.

I do not deny that the soul may cultivate a sublime sense of buoyancy and power; rather do I urge you to seek that beautiful condition.

 

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Fear and Reason (Part 2 of 4)

Please do not miss out the the wonderful first part.

 

Continuation:

“Everyone can testify that the psychical state called fear consists of mental representations of certain painful results.”

-William James

The mental representations may be very faint as such, but the idea of hurt to self is surely present. It is a belief that the real self cannot be hurt. The reason can be brought to consider vividly and believing all quieting considerations.

How to remove fear “as far as the east is from the west”

  1. If the self can hold consciously in the assurance that the White Life surrounds the true self
  2. If surely within that self, and will suffer “no evil to come night,”
  3. All the instincts of self preservation may be perfectly active

Ways for fear may be divided

As a warning and as a maker of panic. The warning should be understood as given to reason. Fear need not appear at all, and that the panic is perfectly useless pain. With these discrimination in mind, we may now go on to a preliminary study of fear.

Fear is an impulse, a habit, and a disease.

Fear, as it exists in man, is a make-believe of sanity, a creature of the imagination, a state of insanity. Furthermore, fear is, now of the nerves, now of the mind, now of the moral consciousness.

The division depends upon the point of view. “Normal fear” should give place to reason, using the word to cover instinct as well as thought. From the correct point of view all fear is an evil so long as entertained.

Whatever manifestations, wherever apparent location, fear is a psychic state. Fear reacts upon the individual in several ways. In the nerves, in mental moods, in a single impulse, in a chronic habit, in a totally unbalanced condition.

 

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