Do you have this bad habit? Read the recent article to find out.
But focusing more on assigning blame than on how to deal with the problems is just a bad habit. It’s like a child screaming “I don’t want it this way!” thinking that complaints will change reality.
It isn’t very productive. You may notice in friends who find many things and people to blame in their lives.
Breaking A Bad Habit
Blame the person who chooses to be cruel to you. But you are also to blame if you choose to be abused repeatedly by spending time with this person. It’s a bit like sticking your hand in a fire repeatedly, hoping it will one day stop being hot.
Almost, I say, because a person CAN change. However, how often do they? Be realistic here, or you are fighting reality as surely as when you put your hand into a fire.
A person can wait for his “ship to come in,” or can face the fact that people create most of the “luck” they have in life. Then they start working toward his goals.
I can work for political change or just complain and wish things were different. You can watch people succeed, while talking about the “reasons” for your failures. You can see what they are doing to succeed and try that.
Sometimes we don’t want to see the truth. To really want to see it we may need to look at the futility of fighting reality. Who is more likely to find happiness in this world?
A man who demands it should be the way he wants it. Or one who accepts things as they are, changes what he can, and does what he needs to do? Who will more likely succeed? A man who knows all about how things “should be?” Or one who sees only what is there and deals with it?
Do you need motivation to change? Start watch complainers and blamers and those who say “should” and “shouldn’t” too often. Watch closely, and you’ll see how they suffer for their demands on reality.
This is a bad habit upon which many other bad habits are based, but it can be broken.
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