Please read those wonderful recent articles:
Self-Talk (Part 1 of 4)
Self-Talk (Part 2 of 4)
Are your answers something like this?
“It happened because I’m not lucky”.
“Things happened because I’m not smart enough”.
“So happened because I wasn’t prepared”.
Poor choice of words will give you a poor answer. What if you used words like this when a challenge comes into your life?
“What can I learn from this challenge so I don’t repeat it?”
What’s funny about this challenge and how can I have fun solving it?”
You see better words produce a better question. A better question will produce a better answer.
Pretty simple but so powerful.
Here’s a perfect example of how Self-Talk will empower you. Let’s say someone is having a bad day, and you have the joy of running into this person.
And this person is more than happy to piss all over your day because they feel it’s their duty to ruin yours and everyone else’s day. You know the saying “If I’m having a bad day everybody else is going to”.
I DON’T THINK SO!!!
Because of my Self-Talk nobody gets to decide how my day is going to be but me. So my Self-Talk to that person is “I will not get involved in other people’s drama and I refuse to allow negativity into my life”.
If that’s my self-talk do you think I’m going to have a bad day just because someone else is? If someone is so hell bent on having a bad day let them, but you don’t have to.
Why would you want to be a passenger in your own life and allow people to determine what you’re going to experience? Take control of your life right NOW!!
Here are some samples of different words you can use to start changing your vocabulary:
Depressed to Not on top of it
Failing to Learning
I hate to I prefer
Irritated to stimulated
Overwhelmed to Busy
Stressed to Energized
Rejected to Overlooked
You get the idea.
(TO BE CONTINUED)
We all have Self Talk
So what is Self-Talk? Simply put Self-Talk is the running dialogue in your head. It’s the words you use to describe the experiences in your life. Those are the words you use when you have challenges. The words you use when you’re speaking to others. Like your daily vocabulary.
Look you must realize the power your words command and then choose them wisely.
“People with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multitude palette of colors with which to paint their experience, not only for others, but for themselves as well”.
“Its only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away”
Many of us don’t realize the words we habitually choose to use effect how we communicate with ourselves and therefore what we experience. Words are very powerful, they can help or heal. They can make us cry or laugh. Words can create or destroy. They can comfort or cause pain.
Words create emotions, and those words create action, and from those actions your life is formed. Most of your beliefs are created by words, which means they can also be changed by words.
Simply choosing new words to describe how you’re feeling or how you experienced an event can instantly change the emotional experience. If you describe a fantastic experience as being “Ok”. That experience is now diminished and flat because of your limited use of words.
You’re in control of your life
You need to consciously evaluate and keep improving the content of your vocabulary to make sure it’s pulling you in the direction you desire instead of a direction you want to avoid.
Changing choice of words can change your life
Here’s a great example I heard from Anthony Robbins after hearing him speak about this subject at one of his live seminars. After that I re-evaluated my Self-Talk (years ago). And it changed my life BIG TIME!
Self-Talk (Part 2 of 4)
Self-Talk (Part 3 of 4)
Instinct develops with age like a fine wine. In your twenties, going with your gut instinct had you dirty-dancing with your boss. Maybe also you do drunk-dialing your ex and cutting your own fringe.
Turns out, your instincts get better with age. Sometimes it’s easy to act on impulse.
Imagine you’re crossing the road and a car swerves towards you… You’re not going to question the ‘Run!’ urge, are you? But in everyday life when we’re trying to make a decision, it’s all too easy for your gut instinct to be drowned out by dithering.
Often we do not trust it
Instinct is a powerful thing but often we don’t trust it. We feel we have to have a sound explanation for our beliefs. So a lot of times our instinct argue with our sensible side.
But that ‘feeling in your bones’ could be just the tool you need to help you make your mind up. A lot of it is about recognizing familiar or comparable situations.
Your instinct is more reliable as you get older. All because it’s based on more experience so from which clothes to wear, to more important choices. It can be where to buy a house, or anything, your intuition works for you.
Recall Your First Reaction
Do you stand in the shop, agonizing over those Kurt Geiger‘s like it’s a life or death call? Well, trust your very first impulse on small decisions.
In recent study, volunteers asked to pick the odd out from rows of indicial images were right 95 when they pondered for longer. It shows that falling back on our inbuilt, subconscious processes for certain tasks is more effective.
You’re not the only one who gets in a knot trying to counter your instinct with factual info. Most people are rubbish at keeping comparative detail in their heads.
Continue reading the last part.
“I aim to become the president of my country. Will be the greatest scientist. One day, I will be the richest person in the world. I aim to and so goes the list of ambitions of people.”
Nobody remembers that the final goal for each one of us is going back to earth. Let us talk more about ambitions.
Are ambitions good or bad? This is difficult to answer, isn’t it? To be an ambitious person must be very good. With ambitions a person strives to achieve a great feat. Few of us have very big ambitions and few very small. It all depends on our contentment.
What will make us feel happy? What will make us feel worthy, and what will make us feel powerful? It’s all about what we want from life.
If you want money at any cost, you will compromise with all other values and try to make more money. But if your ambition is to become an honest person and live a God fearing life, no amount of money can attract you to do any wrongs.
Ambitions therefore depend upon our character, culture, mental makeup, outlook, values and so on. Till our ambitions don’t trouble others it is okay.
If by achieving our goals, we make others happy, that is still better. But if our ambitions hurt others, we must revisit our thinking and redefine our ambitions.
Please read the first part.
Okay, ready for the test? Gather all of your strength and “willpower.” Be sure NOT to do the following. Here it comes … DON’T think of a red fire truck!!
You automatically thought of a red fire truck, right? This is because when the “will” and the “imagination” are in conflict, the imagination always wins. Most people spend a great deal of time telling themselves what they DON’T want, instead of what they DO want.
Even with every ounce of willpower they can muster, they somehow end up with more of the same old thing. That’s because the mind works in pictures, not words.
Imagination is the secret ingredient of life. If people imagine themselves “rich,” regardless of the amount of money they have, chances are they will be healthy and strong and live an abundant life.
If a rich man imagines himself poor or on the brink of losing his fortune, it is likely that trouble and sickness will plague him to the grave.
All that we are searching for in life is already present within ourselves. The sooner we come to believe in the power of our own imagination, the easier our lives will become. I challenge you to stretch your mind to the possibility of accomplishment beyond your present aspirations.
What if, in an attempt to reach your goals, you awakened the powerful latent genius within? How would you feel if you found the cure for AIDS or cancer? Think of the people who would benefit from your achievement.
The reality is that until everyone on the planet imagines a world of health and vitality for all, there will always be disease and woe. Take charge of your life now. Imagine your way to health and happiness and it will be so.
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