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Living The Dream (Part 3 of 3)

Do not miss out the first and second part.

 

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Here are some steps you can take:

  1. You must clearly examine whether or not you are happy and satisfied with your current life’s work and your relationships with the important people in your life. If you are, then congratulations are in order and you need to read no further.
  2. If you are not satisfied, then you must clearly delineate what the problems are and the source of your unhappiness.
  3. Next, you must identify a solution over which you, yourself, are in control. That means you must formulate a solution that doesn’t involve someone else doing something differently. You know what I mean. “I could be happy if my wife would just cook dinner every night”. “I would love this job if only the boss would get off of my case.”
  4. If you are unable to think of a solution that is solely up to you, then daydream about what the perfect job or the perfect relationship would look like. How would you be, what would you have and what would you be doing? Assess your interests, skills and abilities to uncover your definite purpose. What is it you were destined to do?
  5. Once you have your ideal picture in your mind, ask yourself what is stopping you? What would you have to give up to move in the direction of your dream? Which obstacles do you face? What do you fear?
  6. Now you must formulate a plan that has a reasonable chance of success. I’m not suggesting that you file for divorce or quit your job. We need to  come up with a plan. A plan that will move you forward in the direction you want to go. You can take small, baby steps as long as you do something each day that will move you along the path of living your dream.
  7. The final step is to develop the strength to actually take the action you planned in Step 6. Making a plan is great but it will never accomplish anything if you don’t take action. Les Brown tells us, “You don’t have to be great to get started; but you have to get started to be great.” Do something.

If you are having difficulty with any of these steps, then perhaps coaching would help you. Coaching provides just the right balance of support and encouragement with challenge and accountability. You decide. Do you want to live your dream or someone else’s?

 

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Living The Dream (Part 2 of 3)

Do not miss out the wonderfully crafted first part.

 

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Work should be the motivation

Your work should be something that motivates you, gives you pleasure, provides something valuable to others and is in line with your definite purpose. If that doesn’t describe your work, you may want to take some time to reevaluate.

You may think you are too old to change careers now or to go out on your own. However, in ten, fifteen or twenty years you are still going to be the same age whether you invest in your own dream or not. So what’s stopping you?

Relationships

Now, let’s look at your relationships. What is the state of your current relationships with the important people in your life? I suppose I should start with the question: Do you have important people in your life?

Hopefully, the answer to that question is yes, but if not, there is help available. You can improve your relationship skills and learn to make new friends and develop those relationships to their fullest. Everyone needs to have human contact in order to survive.

Some of us have companionship but we are unhappy in these relationships. How can you live the dream when you feel miserable around the people who are suppose to support and encourage you?

Getting our relationships in order is a critical task that too many ignore. We look around us and see lots of other people in unhappy or mediocre relationships and we tell ourselves that is just the way it is. No one is truly happy. That is not true.

Creating healthy relationships is a matter of choice. You are not destined to be in a miserable relationship. Do you remember what it was like when you first got together? It was more than chemistry. There was something between you that made you know each other was special. You can regain that feeling.

Most of us never learn healthy relationship skills. We think it is something we are suppose to know how to do but how good were our teachers? Shouldn’t you learn relationship skills from someone who has strong relationships and who knows how to maintain them?

Every single one of us is entitled to live our dream

Living the dream is not just for a few select individuals. It is possible and we have a right to be happy and satisfied.

 

Continue reading the last part.

Living The Dream (Part 1 of 3)

I’m living the dream, anyone?

I know people in my life who when asked how are things going, will reply, “I’m living the dream.”

Can you say the same? If you could, what would it mean?

Sigmund Freud, a psychologists have been saying that there are two major areas in a person’s life—love and work.

When you are “living the dream,” you will be able to say that you have found satisfying work and are fulfilled in the relationships you share with the important people in your life.

Now, I ask again, “Are you living the dream?” Let’s talk about work first. When you wake up in the morning, are you filled with a sense of excitement and anticipation for what your day at work has in store for you or do you have a sense of dread about what lies ahead?

Of course, these are two opposite ends of the spectrum and more than likely you fall somewhere in between.

As a parent, I always advised my children to choose a profession they love. That’s because they will be spending a lot of their time doing it. I don’t want them to be one of many who hates their job and dreads going to work every day. That is a terrible burden to bear.

So, what can you do if you are one of those people?

Purpose in life

Have you discovered your definite purpose in life? We are here on earth with a variety of gifts that will help us make the world a better place to live. We all have unique skills, interests and abilities that will add to the good of mankind. All of us fulfill our own inner desires. What is your unique, definite purpose?

I believe mine is to help people learn to lead more satisfying lives and to get along better with the important people in them. That’s what I do. I love to do it.

I am energize when I do it. And although I generally get paid for the things I do, I love doing them so much, I would do them for free! This is what I wish for everyone in the area of work.

Many of us are living the dream but it is someone else’s dream. Are you working for the “man” without any pay off? What do I mean by a pay off? Why do you get up and go to work everyday? What motivates you? If it is only the paycheck, then you are living someone else’s dream.

 

Continue reading Part 2 and Last Part.

Working And Living Are Two Different Things (Part 2 of 2)

Do not dare to miss to first part.

 

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When someone asks you to take an hour out of work to do something during the day, tell them that you’ll have to make that hour up at the end of the day, so they shouldn’t expect you out of the office until an hour later than usual.

Don’t Do Chores.

It can be tempting to do laundry or dishes when there’s a load of them to do and work seems slow. But don’t give it to it during your working day. Chores eat up an amazing amount of time.

Resist the temptation by wearing better clothes than you usually would when you’re working. Not a suit, but something business-casual that you wouldn’t really be willing to wash dishes in.

Have a Business Phone Line.

You need a phone line that’s just for business to let clients leave messages when you’re not in the office. Say exactly that in the message: ‘I’m not in the office right now, but please leave your name and number and I’ll get back to you’.

Whatever you do, don’t be tempted to take business calls after-hours. Nor give out your personal number to business contacts.

This is a sure-fire way to never stop working. Turn off the ringer on your business phone when you leave the office for the day.

With Children, All Bets are Off.

If you have children at home during the day, it can be very difficult to maintain a sensible work pattern. They will come and bother you at every opportunity, because they miss you and want to see you.

They’ll even cause trouble just to get you to sort it out. They wanted to come and bother you at your office job too, but they had no way of getting there.

So what can you do when there are children in the house? After all, it’s harsh to just ignore them, isn’t it?

The best answer I’ve found is to hire a babysitter, who can keep the kids entertained while you work. It could get expensive, but it shouldn’t be for long, right?

 

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Working And Living Are Two Different Things (Part 1 of 2)

When you’re at home all the time, people have a way of giving you everything to do, with no regard for your job. It can be very hard indeed to keep your family life separate from your business when you work at home.

In fact, this is one of the most common reasons home businesses fail. Their owners come away all too glad to get back to the corporate grindstone.

Don’t be driven away from home business, here’s what you need to do to keep your family at bay:

Work Time, Home Time.

Make a schedule for when you’re going to work and when you’re not, and stick to it. This doesn’t have to be inflexible. It’s very silly to only work nine to five every day. But it still really needs to be there.

Without a plan, you’re inevitably going to go too far one way or the other. Either work far too much or nowhere near enough. You might find it best to a new plan at the start of each month or week, so that you can still respond to changes in circumstances.

Yes, I know it can be difficult to draw clear lines between family time and work time. Especially if your family is around for some of the hours that you want to be working. The only thing I can say to you is that it’s important to keep on trying.

The moment you give up everything’s going to come crashing down. Whatever you do, don’t let your family anywhere near your office space.

Fit Errands Around Work.

People will obviously be upset if you absolutely refuse to run their errands. Is it really so much trouble to run down to the bank when you’re at home all day? But you can’t let them take away hours from work. You should make your response automatic.

 

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