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Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude (Part 1 of 2)

It’s our choice

Do you consciously choose your attitude each day? If you’re like most people, probably not. Most of us tend to let our circumstances choose our attitude for us.

We’re in a good mood as long as we get up on time. We feel best when the kids cooperate and get to school on time. We are happy when the car starts without a problem. Even if we don’t encounter any traffic jams on the way to work.

Good mood when the boss doesn’t yell and our workload is manageable. This system can work fine as long as everything runs smoothly in our lives.

But that’s not always the case, is it?

Situations don’t always adhere to our expectations. Accidents happen. Delays happen. Spouses and bosses can be difficult to please. Vehicles break down. Kids may resist our efforts to keep the schedule running smoothly.

What happens to our attitude then? If we don’t make the effort to consciously choose a positive attitude, we run the risk of developing a negative one at random.

For starters, how would our lives change if we consciously chose a positive attitude each day?

  1. Feel much happier about our lives.
  2. Feel more motivated about pursuing our dreams because we believe in the possibilities for making them a reality.
  3. Be able to enjoy the time spent with our friends and families more.
  4. Want to share our joy with others.
  5. Feel strong and empowered in our ability to do anything we set our minds to.
  6. Be able to overcome challenges with ease because we’d have a strong belief in our own skills and abilities.
  7. Be able to love deeply and completely without fear of rejection or betrayal.
  8. We would pause to enjoy the smaller, more precious moments in life, without feeling pressured to do more, be more, or prove our worthiness.

Wow, it sounds awesome, doesn’t it?

Is it really possible to feel that way all the time? Yes, but probably not in the way you’re imagining it. Just because we choose a positive attitude doesn’t mean that our lives will transform into smoothly-flowing works of art and stay that way forever.


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Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude (Part 2 of 2)


Making A Life

Tom Paterson, in his book, “Living The Life You Were Meant To Live,” made a very interesting comment. God isn’t interested in us just making a living as He is in us “making a life.”

Well said! I believe a good question we can ask is are we so consumed with making a living that we have forgotten how to make a life!

In this world of “me” focus and striving to get ahead, maybe we need to take a deep breath, step back a little and get a larger perspective on life. At the end of our lives, I don’t think it will really matter how much money you and I made or how successful we were.

I think the questions we will be concerned about are did we love our God and others well? Did we make a difference in this world? It is not that success or money are a bad things, but Jesus was so right when he said that life was so much more than the things that we possess.

At the end of our lives, I think it will be more important to know we were the kind of people that loved and served others well rather than what kind of car we drove, the house we lived in or how much money we made. Did we love with God’s love and did others see in us who Jesus really is.

The reality is that there are no guarantees about time. Time is precious. It waits for no one and it’s the one thing we can never get back. If we postpone what we really want to do in this life, people we want to touch or influence, or even a trip we want to take that time may never come.

People wait for retirement to pursue a dream. Retirement comes and health fails and the dream never happens.

Are you making a living or making a life? Why postpone even simple joys another day? Why not take the time for a long walk and actually smell the roses and enjoy God’s beautiful creation?

It won’t cost you a thing and will not only renew your senses but also clear your head. Why not take time to lay hold of courage and forgive or to tell someone that you love them? Maybe its time to be a voice of encouragement to someone who desperately needs a kind word or hug.

Take the time to cultivate some new friendships or get together with old friends over coffee, dinner. What about the possibility of extending an act of service or kindness to a complete stranger just because you can.

Are you making a living or making a life? What a perspective! When we begin to be people of life instead of performing in life our lives can be not only meaningful but lived with no regrets!



Arrived home very late after a series of meetings in various locations in Laguna, Cavite and Metro Manila, passing more than 20 cities and towns, my wife and I immediately grab our sofa seats and hot tea to take some rest, then freshen up, and off to bed. We had a long day, leaving home 5am and arriving 11pm. We still need to wake up 4am to prepare to go to work and leave around 530am.

The next morning, as we drove along MCX, I heard some irritating sound coming from the rear of my SUV. It is an expressway where vehicles run up to 140kph, with hesitation, I pull over on the “shoulder” and turned the “hazard” signal on, get out my vehicle to take a look where that sound is coming from.

I am not surprise, it is my rear right tire, whose thread at less than 20% (the rest is more than 60%), damaged and about to burst any moment should I continue to speed up.

I immediately changed my damaged wheel and use my spare tire, and after a couple of stressful minutes that seemed years, we are back on track and continue what we need to do. Arriving late on my appointment, with lots of regret, I felt sorry that I have a very unlucky morning. I do not want to be late specially the initial business meeting.

Spending time alone during lunchtime, memories flashes back to me.

My car is a great companion of mine every day, travelling to far places from Manila up Northern Provinces  and Manila to Maasin City down south.

A day before changing my damaged tire along MCX, that night, I am heading home driving along SLEX.

At the back of my mind, questions arises – What if, I heard that disturbing sound at the rear side of my car at night in SLEX? Or I did not hear anything at all and my tire just explode while doing 100kph? Or what if that happen at the roads in South? Or at NLEX? Different consequences might happen. I could have an accident myself, or I may cause an accident risking others’ lives.

I am very thankful that God has still a job for me to accomplish, and that sometimes, changing tires along dangerous roads that seemed uncomfortable and time consuming and very irritating, in God’s own time, is indeed a BLESSING!