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Genuine Happiness Comes from Within (Part 2 of 2)

Where does the genuine happiness comes from? Look for answers from the first article below:

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within (Part 1 of 2)

 

Continuation:

 

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today.

I’m glad I gave it a shot.” instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

The genuine happiness

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota.

Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, and the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Everyone has his own definition of ‘happiness’.

Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much bestselling books as possible. For a basketball rookie, may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money.

Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world.

It’s about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling yourself “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire.

You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

Acceptance

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy.”

For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?” I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain.

But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don’t just become happy… you become free.

 

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Genuine Happiness Comes from Within (Part 1 of 2)

Life isn’t the sweetest candy

Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet?

How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for a while… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment

When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale.

Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these?

I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

 

(TO BE CONTINUED)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 4 of 4)

We can change our attitude from I CAN’T to I CAN! Do not forget to read the previous parts of the article:

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 1 of 4)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 2 of 4)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 3 of 4)

 

Continuation:

 

Will you think of some opportunity or possibility in your life right now that would require you to bring a can-do attitude? An attitude of assumed confidence rather than presumed incompetence?

For at least next week I encourage you to be on the lookout for signs of your inner “can’t” voice.

When you hear that voice whispering all the reasons why you can’t do something, begin to consciously and intentionally shift your focus to the much softer “can” voice.

Shift your perception from can’t to can, from fear to fun, from no to yes.

The Beginner’s Mind

In Buddhism there is a term, Beginner’s Mind that encourages practitioners to bring an empty mind, free of any preconceptions, to each new experience they encounter.

Bar the possibility of attaining that level of emptiness. I want to encourage you to cultivate and nurture an attitude and perception of optimism.

Take a moment, right now. Imagine how different your life if you approach it with a different attitude.

“I Can” instead of an attitude of “I Can’t” or even “I may be able to.”

Just imagine

Imagine that, like those little kids being guided down the slope by a nurturing, supportive ski instructor. You had been blessed with a “life instructor.”

The instructor who instilled in you the truth, the feeling, the knowledge that anything you want to do, you can!

How would that feel? How would that change the way you approach your life? If you knew that you could not fail, what project would you take on?

If you knew that you could only succeed at whatever you attempted, how would your life be different?

 

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Finding The Gift In Every Situation (Part 2 of 2)

Learn to find the gift, read the previous article:

Finding The Gift In Every Situation (Part 1 of 2)

 

Continuation:

 

We already know what it is. During the happier moments of our lives, we can further honor this positive energy by expressing our deepest gratitude and joy.

Rather than just feeling glad about our good fortune, we can purposely focus our thoughts on massive amounts of joy and gratitude, and consciously immerse ourselves in happiness.

We can shout our thanks to the heavens and affirm that we welcome even more blessings in our lives.

Focus on the positive side

Choosing to focus on the positive side doesn’t mean living our lives in denial. It doesn’t mean refusing to acknowledge the negative or mundane aspects of our lives.

It means we see them, we accept them, and then we look beyond them rather than getting mired in negative thoughts and letting them affect the rest of our day.

Our thoughts are higher than our struggles

Looking for the gift means choosing to lift our thoughts higher than our struggles. It removes us from our victim status and empowers us. No matter what happens in our lives, we have the ability to choose our attitude and our mindset.

We can choose to focus on happiness, joy, love and gratitude, or we can stay mired in unhappiness and struggle.

Focusing on the gifts and blessings in our lives won’t make all of our problems vanish overnight, or at all. But it reduces their importance and helps them to fade into the background a bit.

We create in our lives what we focus on the most. By choosing to focus on the positive, we attract more positive energy into our lives.

Things to ponder

Stop for a moment and look at your surroundings right now. What gifts or lessons are available to you in your current circumstances? And will you choose to embrace them and fully benefit from them?

 

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Finding The Gift In Every Situation (Part 1 of 2)

The gift can be found everywhere

Life experiences

When life places obstacles in our path, when things seem like they’re breaking down and we grow weary of the struggle, it’s a good time to step back and look for the gift. What gift, you say?

Every situation and experience in life holds a gift, lesson or blessing for us. Yes, even the really painful experiences, like the loss of a loved one, an automobile accident, or natural disaster. There is a gift there, if we look for it.

To find the gift, we simply have to ask ourselves

  1. What positive lesson can I learn from this?
  2. How can this situation benefit me?
  3. What wisdom can I gain from this experience? What makes this situation worthwhile to experience in my life?

Learning is a gift

We can learn from anything in our lives, from a snag in our pantyhose to a migraine headache. All of us can learn from our disappointments, our heartaches, and our joy.

We can do this with any situation too, not just negative ones. Where is the gift in a boring Sunday afternoon, a crying infant or a gray, rainy wedding day? All we need to do is choose to see the positive side of the situation.

An unlucky day is a gift

The gift of a boring Sunday afternoon might be expressing gratitude for having some free time to express our creativity or enjoy a good book. A crying infant can teach us patience, compassion and nurturing.

A rainy wedding day can help us understand what really matters, the celebration of love and meaningful connections with our friends and family.

When wonderful things happen

Of course, when truly wonderful things happen to us, we don’t need to really look for the gift then, do we?

 

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Finding The Gift In Every Situation (Part 2 of 2)