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Ways To Take Control (Part 1 of 2)

Take Control

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns.

Mainly because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck.

The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

Take Good Care of Yourself

It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For

Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad. Make sure you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions

A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking. But our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, speak up and ask.

This is also applicable to your co-workers who can be secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

Refrain from Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is. It programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

Detach From Negative Thoughts

Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

 

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Ways To Take Control (Part 2 of 2)

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Be Happy (Part 1 of 2)

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Don’t Worry, Be Happy

Almost everyone have heard the hit single Don’t Worry, Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby McFerrin‘s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’

 – Bobby McFerrin

 

In our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments.

If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

It is everywhere

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this

Being grateful is a great attitude

We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows.

Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

 

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Be Happy (Part 2 of 2)

Live Abundantly (Part 1 of 2)

Many of us are bowed down by life – stressed, short of time, tired, on a treadmill. We know that this isn’t the way to live, but not knowing how to free ourselves up to live more fully, more abundantly. There are simple things we can do. They don’t take time or money, but they take a change of attitude.

Below are the things we can do

Be totally financially honest

If you are not, this implies that there is not enough for you to have everything you need without dishonesty.

Create a vacuum so that more good things can flow into it

Don’t fill your life up with things you don’t really want. Ask yourself if you want each thing before you buy it. Don’t have abundant rubbish. Live abundantly by seeking out the things and experiences that work for you in your core being.

Tithing is often associated with religion, but it is also possible to tithe in a non-religious context

This seems a really important aspect of living abundantly. Every time you freely give money away, you are implying that you are confident that more will come. This is a BIG positive affirmation with a lot of power behind it.

The traditional amount is 10% of your income. I’ve recommended this to lots of people. Then they’ve told me that when they do this, magically, they seem to have more.

I started with 10% but now I’ve increased it. I’ve discovered that the more I give away the more I get back. It then results to a happier and more abundantly I live.

Being grateful for what you already have

Focusing on the good that is already in your life. It’s easy to think about what you don’t have. But spend some time each day thinking about what you do have. Start each day by thinking of 5 things that you are grateful for – and express this out loud.

 

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ONE SMALL GESTURE (PART 2 OF 2)

Please do not miss the First Part.

 

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship.

Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn’t me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, “Hey, big guy, you’ll be great!” He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. “Thanks,” he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began,

“Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach…but mostly your friends… I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.”

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn’t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. “Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.”

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize its depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person’s life. For better or for worse. God puts us all in each other’s lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.

“Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.”

There is no beginning or end. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift.

 

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