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Questions To Help You Find Your Life’s Purpose (Part 1 of 2)

Let’s get straight into it.

If you want to live a happy life, then you MUST spend some time deciding what you want to do with your life, and then make the effort to live that life with passion.

It’s up to you!

No-one else is going to do it for you.

So, take some time out from your busy day-to-day routine, and consider answering below:

List of questions

My life

  1. What is my life’s purpose?
  2. If I had to take a best guess at my life’s purpose, what would it be?
  3. Who am I?
  4. What is the most important thing in my life?
  5. What do I love to do, more than anything else?
  6. If I had only six months left to live, what would I like to achieve?
  7. What would I like to leave the world, as my legacy?
  8. What would I do with my life, if I knew I could not fail?

Activities

  1. If money, or time, or current responsibilities were not an issue, what would I like to do with my life, more than anything else in the world?
  2. What activities have I discovered that give me the most pleasure?
  3. What do I still want to learn?
  4. When I was a child, what did I dream of doing with my life?
  5. What has been the greatest challenge that I have overcome so far in my life? Could I help other people to overcome that same challenge?
  6. What challenge would I love to overcome, and then help others achieve the same?

Other people

  1. Who are the people I most admire?
  2. Why do I admire these people?
  3. How would I define their life’s purpose?
  4. What qualities do these people possess that I’d also like to be known for?

Dream

  1. What is the biggest dream I have ever had for my life?

Interests

  1. Which subjects did I enjoy most in school?
  2. What sport have I most enjoyed?
  3. Which art or craft have I most enjoyed?
  4. What social activity have I most enjoyed?
  5. What hobbies have I pursued?
  6. Which hobbies do I wish I had pursued?
  7. What would I like to do, if only other people didn’t think it was silly?

Where

  1. Where in the world would I most like to live?
  2. Who would I like to live there with?
  3. Where in the world would I like to work?

 

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Tips To Discover Your Dream (Part 2 of 2)

Please read the first part.

 

Continuation:

 

Ask: “Who is this for?”

Do you want to live a dream to gain approval from others? Do you want to do it because YOU really want it for yourself? Your dream doesn’t need anyone else’s approval, it is all about YOUR life, not theirs.

Wanting approval for a dream poses a threat: What if others don’t approve? Do you make them happy or yourself happy? Have a dream because it is something you truly want to do; something that is important and gives meaning to your life because you deem it so.

Obviously, approval from others is nice. But if others don’t approve of the lifestyle you choose, then don’t let it make a difference to you

Have the courage to be yourself and live the life you deem appropriate and not the life others deem fit for you.

Your dream is something special

It should excite you, fill you with a burning passion and a determination to achieve it. If you’re lukewarm about it then chances are you won’t give it your best shot.

It should be something that you absolutely, definitely and positively HAVE to achieve. Failing to achieve it simply isn’t an option because it will make you seriously miserable and unhappy if you don’t get what you want.

It is vital that you have this commitment to your dream because a wishy-washy approach just won’t cut the mustard. Think. Plan. Write it all down. Set goals. Then take action each and every day to take you closer to your dream.

Time for me to sign off. Please don’t just read this article and then move on to something else. TAKE ACTION. Use the tips to help you identify what it is you want from life.

Remember the question:

“What, exactly, do you want to do with your life?”

Only you can provide the precise answers.

 

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Tips To Discover Your Dream (Part 1 of 2)

 

How to discover your dream. You know how? Let me ask a question. It is the most important question I can ask. I wonder if you could provide me with an answer within 10 seconds. Most people cannot.

Here it is:

What, exactly, do you want to do with your life?

A complete description of how you want to live your life including the most important goal you’d like to achieve. So answers like “make money”, “live in a big house”, or “meet someone special” have no place here.

Such vague, non-specific answers are given by most people. It is a sure sign that they haven’t identified what they really want to do with their lives.

The reason why it is so important to know the answer – in detail – to the question is because the answer reveals your dream.

Your dream is unique to you, and it represents something very important to your happiness and growth as a person. It is an expression of the real you and gives enormous meaning and purpose to your life.

So how do you know what your dream is? Many people say to me “If only I knew what I really wanted”.

If this applies to you, then here’s my top tips to identify your dream:

  1. Take the time to think seriously about what you want to do with your life. Ask yourself “How would I truly want to spend everyday if I could choose freely”. This is serious time and you should spend at least an hour everyday working out the answers to this question.
  2. On a sheet of paper, write down all the things you really enjoy doing and have a passion for. Write down all of the wonderful things you’d like to try too. For example, my list contains: working with computers, writing, motivating others to succeed, music, cooking, travel, history, the arts, farming.
  3. On another sheet of paper, write down all of the things you definitely DON’T want in your life. This is a great technique and brings clarity. For example, on my list, I have: No repetitive work, no bosses, no 9-5, no outdoor tasks, no relationships, no mysticism, no routines. Be honest with this. If you don’t like doing something, write it down. Duty has no role here; this is for you. If you don’t like doing something, write it down.

 

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Living The Dream (Part 3 of 3)

Do not miss out the first and second part.

 

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Here are some steps you can take:

  1. You must clearly examine whether or not you are happy and satisfied with your current life’s work and your relationships with the important people in your life. If you are, then congratulations are in order and you need to read no further.
  2. If you are not satisfied, then you must clearly delineate what the problems are and the source of your unhappiness.
  3. Next, you must identify a solution over which you, yourself, are in control. That means you must formulate a solution that doesn’t involve someone else doing something differently. You know what I mean. “I could be happy if my wife would just cook dinner every night”. “I would love this job if only the boss would get off of my case.”
  4. If you are unable to think of a solution that is solely up to you, then daydream about what the perfect job or the perfect relationship would look like. How would you be, what would you have and what would you be doing? Assess your interests, skills and abilities to uncover your definite purpose. What is it you were destined to do?
  5. Once you have your ideal picture in your mind, ask yourself what is stopping you? What would you have to give up to move in the direction of your dream? Which obstacles do you face? What do you fear?
  6. Now you must formulate a plan that has a reasonable chance of success. I’m not suggesting that you file for divorce or quit your job. We need to  come up with a plan. A plan that will move you forward in the direction you want to go. You can take small, baby steps as long as you do something each day that will move you along the path of living your dream.
  7. The final step is to develop the strength to actually take the action you planned in Step 6. Making a plan is great but it will never accomplish anything if you don’t take action. Les Brown tells us, “You don’t have to be great to get started; but you have to get started to be great.” Do something.

If you are having difficulty with any of these steps, then perhaps coaching would help you. Coaching provides just the right balance of support and encouragement with challenge and accountability. You decide. Do you want to live your dream or someone else’s?

 

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Living The Dream (Part 2 of 3)

Do not miss out the wonderfully crafted first part.

 

Continuation:

 

Work should be the motivation

Your work should be something that motivates you, gives you pleasure, provides something valuable to others and is in line with your definite purpose. If that doesn’t describe your work, you may want to take some time to reevaluate.

You may think you are too old to change careers now or to go out on your own. However, in ten, fifteen or twenty years you are still going to be the same age whether you invest in your own dream or not. So what’s stopping you?

Relationships

Now, let’s look at your relationships. What is the state of your current relationships with the important people in your life? I suppose I should start with the question: Do you have important people in your life?

Hopefully, the answer to that question is yes, but if not, there is help available. You can improve your relationship skills and learn to make new friends and develop those relationships to their fullest. Everyone needs to have human contact in order to survive.

Some of us have companionship but we are unhappy in these relationships. How can you live the dream when you feel miserable around the people who are suppose to support and encourage you?

Getting our relationships in order is a critical task that too many ignore. We look around us and see lots of other people in unhappy or mediocre relationships and we tell ourselves that is just the way it is. No one is truly happy. That is not true.

Creating healthy relationships is a matter of choice. You are not destined to be in a miserable relationship. Do you remember what it was like when you first got together? It was more than chemistry. There was something between you that made you know each other was special. You can regain that feeling.

Most of us never learn healthy relationship skills. We think it is something we are suppose to know how to do but how good were our teachers? Shouldn’t you learn relationship skills from someone who has strong relationships and who knows how to maintain them?

Every single one of us is entitled to live our dream

Living the dream is not just for a few select individuals. It is possible and we have a right to be happy and satisfied.

 

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