Change (Part 1 of 2)

The only thing that never change is change

Things never stay the same

One thing in life is certain—change. Things never stay the same. If you are hoping for the status quo, then I’m afraid you will be disappointed. Just think back to how things were five years ago and you will realize that there is so very much that’s already different in a very short time.

I’m sure there are some of you who know people who refused to adapt to the computer age. I still know some “old timers” who want to use word processors or even typewriters instead! Imagine. What is up with that?

Again, our choice

Well, when change comes we have several options, some of which are more adaptive than others. Let’s take a look at them.

The first option is to refuse to change or adapt to any new circumstances.

Just like the person who still uses a word processor. These are generally people who are afraid of change. I also think that underlying that fear is the fear of being inadequate.

When change requires new learning, as it often does, some people don’t think they will be able to master the new skills so it is easier to simply renounce the changes than adapt. The problem is that these are the people who are left in the dust.

The second possibility is the slow starter.

These people usually start out in one of the first two mentioned roles. Either refusing to change or anxiously running around trying to figure out what to do about it.

They do not like change any more than the next person and they resist and resist until one day, they realize that the change may actually bring benefits. Once they see that there is a payoff for them, they fairly easily do the necessary things to adapt to the change.

A third possibility is what we see in the over anxious people in our midst.

You know who they are. They are the ones who are always making mountains out of molehills. Those who have a nervous energy about them whenever confronted with a novel situation.

They imagine all the possible scenarios about what could occur and seem to just go around in circles. Those who don’t adapt to the change. They just worry themselves sick over it.



an old wrecked barn house falls apart

Self-Growth: When Everything Falls Apart (Part 2 of 4)

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Self-Growth: When Everything Falls Apart (Part 1 of 4)




So painful

As painful as it is, it’s a good thing, because my life circumstances were built on lies. The lies were the early beliefs I had formed about myself since childhood. Once I began changing those beliefs, my life circumstances began changing also.

Change is good, but it can also be scary and painful as hell. It is necessary however, because in order to build something better, we need to tear down what already exists.

There is a direct correlation

In my own experiences, I notice that there is a direct correlation between the size of the blockages we dissolve, and the magnitude of destruction it causes in our lives.

If we dissolve a small blockage, something small will fall apart in relation. Maybe our car will break down, or we will develop a minor illness. When we dissolve a very LARGE blockage, something equally as large will begin to slide into the abyss.

Our marriage might fall apart. Or we might lose our job. Or we might experience a more serious illness or accident

As frightening as this sounds, it’s a very important part of the process because it makes us sit up and take notice! Most often, the parts of our lives that begin to fall apart weren’t that great to begin with.

They didn’t serve our higher purpose, even though we may have felt comfortable with them.

How to deal with them

So, how do we deal with the pain and fear when everything falls apart? Our first reaction might be to run away to avoid feeling the pain. Another reaction might be to try and put everything back the way it was before it fell apart.

But doing so only delays the process. Remember that the destruction is necessary in order to make room for the rebuilding of something better.

In order to complete the process, we need to stay with it. Yes, there will likely be pain and discomfort involved.

There will be fear. There will be anger and grief. But there will also be an awakening deeper than any we have experienced before. Our eyes will be opened in powerful ways.


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Self-Growth: When Everything Falls Apart (Part 3 of 4)