Tag: choice

Conquering Your Fears (Part 1 of 3)

Conquering your fears. Can you? Have you ever had a fear that kept you from living life fully? Perhaps this fear has stopped you from having MORE fun or experiencing GREATER success. Yes? You’re not alone. I have too.

Let me tell you a story from a great friend:

Fear that stops enjoying life to the fullest

The fear I conquered in the story below may not be my biggest fear. But with a little reflection I saw how it really stopped me from enjoying my family and life to the fullest.

It also taught me a valuable lesson of how taking steps to overcome my fear resulted in increased self confidence.

At the end of my story, I’ll give you tips for conquering your own fears.

Not the biggest fear

A few weekends ago my husband and I took our daughter Kasie, and my nephew Zach, to a water park. We all love the water and were having a blast until my hubby and the kids took off for. Those are the water slides.

As they enthusiastically ran to the slides I slowed way down. In fact, I stopped, found a chair and proceeded to organize our belongings.

As I settled into a lawn chair I saw Kasie and Zach whoosh down their side-by-side slides and plunge, feet first, into the cool water. They quickly resurfaced, sputtering and laughing and ready for more.

As Zach jumped out of the pool to run back up the stairs he looked at me laughing. Then he said, “Cari’s being a wimp.” He was right. I was.

You see, even though I love the water I’ve always been afraid of — water slides.

Time has come to make a choice

On this particular day however, the kid pressure was too great. I decided it was the time and place to conquer my old fear. As I hurried to the steps my chest tightened and my breathing became very shallow.

Each step I took to reach the top of the slide made me feel anxious, awkward and scared to death.

 

Continue reading Part 2 and Last Part.

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Developing Patience

Virtues of Patience

Webster’s defines be patient as bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint, or being steadfast despite opposition, difficulty or adversity. I believe this why patience is called a virtue.

It is little practiced, but much needed. At the first sign of difficulty, many jump to an easier, smoother path, hoping to avoid the pain and suffering that is necessary on the road to personal growth.

But it is only by taking this rough road do we gain the experience necessary to develop our character. Impatience robs us of these types of life experiences. How would your world be different if you practiced more patience?

Patience is the ability to hang on when everyone else has given up. It is ability to release your need for immediate gratification and wait for the things to come in their own time frame.

Patience overcomes criticism and intolerance. It develops committed relationships in marriage, family, church, community and career.

Many a great leader have displayed patience by looking before they leaped, thinking before they acted, and considering before they decided. Indeed, it is the mark of maturity.

How Do We Develop More Patience?

First, realize that no one is perfect, including yourself. Accept yourself and others, imperfections and all. Everyone is struggling with their own set of fears, weaknesses, obstacles and crises.

We are all on the road of personal growth together and can help each other by showing more patience and kindness to each other.

Second, develop a consistent philosophy of life based upon a value system you believe in. Then when you are confronted with a situation, you can make your choice based upon the value system rather than an instant gratification response.

With every choice is a consequence. Do you act now and settle? Or do you wait to get the result you truly desire?

Third, change your perspective on the past, present and the future. Stop dwelling on your mistakes and failures. They cannot be changed. Instead, focus and what you can do now to make a difference.

Life is a blessing and each day should be lived as if it were your last. Start fresh everyday and remember the future comes one day at a time. What can you do today to change the results you have in the future?

Fourth, confront your fears rather than avoid them. Do the thing you fear the most and the fear will go away. “That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed, but our ability to do it has increased.”

By doing more, it becomes easier, and when it becomes easier it becomes fun rather than stressful.

Finally, realize that all things come to those who wait. The Universe, the infinite force that connects us all, will bring the people who can help, the answers you may need, the tools and resources you are looking for when you need them.

Just be Patient

You must have faith and be patient and believe in your goals, realizing that they will often not be accomplished according to your original plans.

Circumstances change. People change. Things change. Let go of your anxiety, disbelief and doubt about achieving your goal. Know that The Universe is constantly supporting you and will always help you achieve the things you desire. Just be patient!

CROSSROADS

 

Sometimes when I look back, and think of all the “could- have- beens” in my life, I often wonder: did I make the right choice? Did I miss a road sign?… Am I on the right track?… CROSSROADS …

 

They happen all the time. saying goodbye to some, choosing only one.  Letting go, holding on… settling for now, but facing what must come.

 

Yes, in life, we all reach a crossroad sometime.

 

We make painful decision and take some risks as we pursue our dreams.  But one should not stay at the CROSSROADS too long. For even the birds have to leave their nests sometime and learn how to fly.


The Life road is long and rough, and there are stretches when one has to do it alone. And should you meet the cross at the road, be consoled.

 

Yes, more often than not, the road less traveled will surely bring you home. Face the light and the shadow falls behind you. Turn your back, and the shadows fall in front of you.

 

Indeed, the truth hurts, but it will surely set you free. The bitter pangs of parting, will give birth to another moment called growing.

 

So grow on.. until it’s time for you to move on… and face the crossroads again.

 

Knowing God loves you and is in control of everything.

 

Be strong at the crossroads.

 

Embrace the CROSS at the ROAD.

 

The LORD is at the cross, at the road, at all your CROSSROADS …