CROSSROADS

 

Sometimes when I look back, and think of all the “could- have- beens” in my life, I often wonder: did I make the right choice? Did I miss a road sign?… Am I on the right track?… CROSSROADS …

 

They happen all the time. saying goodbye to some, choosing only one.  Letting go, holding on… settling for now, but facing what must come.

 

Yes, in life, we all reach a crossroad sometime.

 

We make painful decision and take some risks as we pursue our dreams.  But one should not stay at the CROSSROADS too long. For even the birds have to leave their nests sometime and learn how to fly.


The Life road is long and rough, and there are stretches when one has to do it alone. And should you meet the cross at the road, be consoled.

 

Yes, more often than not, the road less traveled will surely bring you home. Face the light and the shadow falls behind you. Turn your back, and the shadows fall in front of you.

 

Indeed, the truth hurts, but it will surely set you free. The bitter pangs of parting, will give birth to another moment called growing.

 

So grow on.. until it’s time for you to move on… and face the crossroads again.

 

Knowing God loves you and is in control of everything.

 

Be strong at the crossroads.

 

Embrace the CROSS at the ROAD.

 

The LORD is at the cross, at the road, at all your CROSSROADS …

 

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Change (Part 1 of 2)

The only thing that never change is change

Things never stay the same

One thing in life is certain—change. Things never stay the same. If you are hoping for the status quo, then I’m afraid you will be disappointed. Just think back to how things were five years ago and you will realize that there is so very much that’s already different in a very short time.

I’m sure there are some of you who know people who refused to adapt to the computer age. I still know some “old timers” who want to use word processors or even typewriters instead! Imagine. What is up with that?

Again, our choice

Well, when change comes we have several options, some of which are more adaptive than others. Let’s take a look at them.

The first option is to refuse to change or adapt to any new circumstances.

Just like the person who still uses a word processor. These are generally people who are afraid of change. I also think that underlying that fear is the fear of being inadequate.

When change requires new learning, as it often does, some people don’t think they will be able to master the new skills so it is easier to simply renounce the changes than adapt. The problem is that these are the people who are left in the dust.

The second possibility is the slow starter.

These people usually start out in one of the first two mentioned roles. Either refusing to change or anxiously running around trying to figure out what to do about it.

They do not like change any more than the next person and they resist and resist until one day, they realize that the change may actually bring benefits. Once they see that there is a payoff for them, they fairly easily do the necessary things to adapt to the change.

A third possibility is what we see in the over anxious people in our midst.

You know who they are. They are the ones who are always making mountains out of molehills. Those who have a nervous energy about them whenever confronted with a novel situation.

They imagine all the possible scenarios about what could occur and seem to just go around in circles. Those who don’t adapt to the change. They just worry themselves sick over it.

 

(TO BE CONTINUED)

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Be Happy (Part 1 of 2)

Stay happy

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

Almost everyone have heard the hit single Don’t Worry, Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby McFerrin‘s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’

 – Bobby McFerrin

 

In our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments.

If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

It is everywhere

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this

Being grateful is a great attitude

We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows.

Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

 

Continue reading:

Be Happy (Part 2 of 2)

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Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude (Part 2 of 2)

Miss out the first part? Read it here!

 

Continuation:

 

Choosing a positive attitude is a process. We don’t just choose it once and expect everything to be perfect from that moment on. We will still experience setbacks, delays, accidents, frustrations, arguments, fatigue, and fear.

To reiterate, it is our choice

The secret is how we choose to react to these experiences. Do we want to let them ruin our day? Do we choose to pick ourselves up and look hopefully to the future again? We do have the power to choose.

You may be asking what the point of a positive attitude is. If we’ll still experience negative circumstances, why bother with choosing a positive attitude?

Ah, that’s the true beauty of the creative process. What we choose to focus on the most, we create in our lives.

By choosing a positive attitude each day, we are actually attracting more positive experiences. Thus, reducing the likelihood of negative experiences.

You may have noticed that each experience often determines the quality of the next experience. This almost always causing a chain reaction in our lives. If one little thing goes wrong, it can throw off our plans for the rest of the day.

In this context, it’s easy to see how a positive attitude would be powerful. Rather than allowing one little thing to ruin our day, we would be able to shrug it off and continue on without a hitch.

Over time, this resiliency begins to strengthen and empower us, which will show through in our demeanor. We begin attracting people and experiences that more closely match our attitude.

Before we know it, out lives eventually transform into more positive, fulfilling expressions of joy.

And it all begins with a little thing called attitude!

Again, this is a process, so go easy on yourself if you’re trying to adopt a more positive attitude. Simply focus on developing a stronger awareness of your attitude moment to moment in your daily experiences.

Begin choosing a more positive one more often. It takes time to realize the full benefits of this type of mindset, but it is time well-spent.

Before you know it, you’ll be one of those people you used to admire for their tenacity and strength. Your life will transform in amazing ways.

 

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Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude (Part 1 of 2)

It’s our choice

Do you consciously choose your attitude each day? If you’re like most people, probably not. Most of us tend to let our circumstances choose our attitude for us.

We’re in a good mood as long as we get up on time. We feel best when the kids cooperate and get to school on time. We are happy when the car starts without a problem. Even if we don’t encounter any traffic jams on the way to work.

Good mood when the boss doesn’t yell and our workload is manageable. This system can work fine as long as everything runs smoothly in our lives.

But that’s not always the case, is it?

Situations don’t always adhere to our expectations. Accidents happen. Delays happen. Spouses and bosses can be difficult to please. Vehicles break down. Kids may resist our efforts to keep the schedule running smoothly.

What happens to our attitude then? If we don’t make the effort to consciously choose a positive attitude, we run the risk of developing a negative one at random.

For starters, how would our lives change if we consciously chose a positive attitude each day?

  1. Feel much happier about our lives.
  2. Feel more motivated about pursuing our dreams because we believe in the possibilities for making them a reality.
  3. Be able to enjoy the time spent with our friends and families more.
  4. Want to share our joy with others.
  5. Feel strong and empowered in our ability to do anything we set our minds to.
  6. Be able to overcome challenges with ease because we’d have a strong belief in our own skills and abilities.
  7. Be able to love deeply and completely without fear of rejection or betrayal.
  8. We would pause to enjoy the smaller, more precious moments in life, without feeling pressured to do more, be more, or prove our worthiness.

Wow, it sounds awesome, doesn’t it?

Is it really possible to feel that way all the time? Yes, but probably not in the way you’re imagining it. Just because we choose a positive attitude doesn’t mean that our lives will transform into smoothly-flowing works of art and stay that way forever.

 

Continue reading:

Consciously Choosing A Positive Attitude (Part 2 of 2)