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The Law Of Attraction Secret (Part 1 of 2)

The secret is not a secret at all

Many people try to use the Law of Attraction to build a life that is truly worthy of them. They become frustrated at their lack of progress simply because they have gotten the order of manifestation wrong. Don’t fall into the same trap. The secret is learn that you must first be what you want. Do what you is necessary to achieve it, so that you can pursue your desire.

The hindrance

One of the biggest problems people find when they try to use the Law of Attraction for the first time is resistance from the outside world. It seems that no matter what they do the world pushes against them. It appears that the harder they strive for their desires the more the world pushes back. They then fall into the trap of blaming the world for their woes or even blaming God. A disastrous mindset to have if you wish to successfully and consciously employ the Law of Attraction to your advantage.

Thoughts to ponder

Mahatma Ghandi, the great Indian leader who peacefully freed his country from British rule, told his followers, “become the change you want to see in the world.”

Those words are just as true today as they were when this wise man walked the planet. In order to have what you want you must be willing to do what is necessary to achieve it. It can only be achieved when you become the very thing you want.

Change

The Law of Attraction can bring you anything and everything you want. In fact, anything you can hold in mind can be yours if you follow the rules of this Universal Law.

Trying to change other people or change the world is the wrong approach to achieving your dreams. You must change yourself. By holding in mind the things you want and believing that it is truly possible for you to have them you will immediately begin to attract them. However, if you wish to change the world or other people you are holding in mind the very things you do not want.

You are affirming to yourself that things are not OK the way they are. Thinking that the people and environment around you is a certain way “the way you don’t want it to be.” The Law of Attraction immediately kicks in and you begin to attract more of those things.

By allowing the world and other people to be fine the way they are you will begin to embrace the moment and unleash your true power to create. You cannot change the world and you cannot change others but you can change yourself. This is where your true power lies.

When you change yourself internally the world around you begins to change as you start to attract people, circumstances, situations and physical objects that reflect your changed beliefs, attitude, thoughts and feelings.

 

Continue reading the last part.

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Developing Patience

Virtues of Patience

Webster’s defines be patient as bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint, or being steadfast despite opposition, difficulty or adversity. I believe this why patience is called a virtue.

It is little practiced, but much needed. At the first sign of difficulty, many jump to an easier, smoother path, hoping to avoid the pain and suffering that is necessary on the road to personal growth.

But it is only by taking this rough road do we gain the experience necessary to develop our character. Impatience robs us of these types of life experiences. How would your world be different if you practiced more patience?

Patience is the ability to hang on when everyone else has given up. It is ability to release your need for immediate gratification and wait for the things to come in their own time frame.

Patience overcomes criticism and intolerance. It develops committed relationships in marriage, family, church, community and career.

Many a great leader have displayed patience by looking before they leaped, thinking before they acted, and considering before they decided. Indeed, it is the mark of maturity.

How Do We Develop More Patience?

First, realize that no one is perfect, including yourself. Accept yourself and others, imperfections and all. Everyone is struggling with their own set of fears, weaknesses, obstacles and crises.

We are all on the road of personal growth together and can help each other by showing more patience and kindness to each other.

Second, develop a consistent philosophy of life based upon a value system you believe in. Then when you are confronted with a situation, you can make your choice based upon the value system rather than an instant gratification response.

With every choice is a consequence. Do you act now and settle? Or do you wait to get the result you truly desire?

Third, change your perspective on the past, present and the future. Stop dwelling on your mistakes and failures. They cannot be changed. Instead, focus and what you can do now to make a difference.

Life is a blessing and each day should be lived as if it were your last. Start fresh everyday and remember the future comes one day at a time. What can you do today to change the results you have in the future?

Fourth, confront your fears rather than avoid them. Do the thing you fear the most and the fear will go away. “That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed, but our ability to do it has increased.”

By doing more, it becomes easier, and when it becomes easier it becomes fun rather than stressful.

Finally, realize that all things come to those who wait. The Universe, the infinite force that connects us all, will bring the people who can help, the answers you may need, the tools and resources you are looking for when you need them.

Just be Patient

You must have faith and be patient and believe in your goals, realizing that they will often not be accomplished according to your original plans.

Circumstances change. People change. Things change. Let go of your anxiety, disbelief and doubt about achieving your goal. Know that The Universe is constantly supporting you and will always help you achieve the things you desire. Just be patient!

Building Self Esteem

 

What Is Self Esteem?

High self-esteem is an extremely important characteristic of all highly successful people. Without high levels of self-esteem you are unlikely to see yourself as being worthy of success or happiness, and as a result will never truly try your hardest to achieve it.

High self-esteem will give you the courage to keep going when things get tough, and believe in yourself when others say you will never accomplish something. Developing and building self-esteem is therefore one of the most important and valuable things you could ever do for yourself.

Unfortunately, the value of self-esteem is often overlooked, yet the truth is we could all improve our level of self-esteem in some way or another.

 

Things That Build Self Esteem

The things that improve your self-esteem are quite simple. Basically anything that makes you feel good about yourself, makes you feel important or valuable as a person will build your level of self-esteem. So if your life is full of these things on a consistent daily basis, then your level of self-esteem will automatically rise.

However the opposite is also true. So anything that makes you feel bad, reduces your feelings of worthiness or importance, will lower your self-esteem.

 

Causes Of Low Self Esteem

So when you look at self-esteem like this, you can see that overall self-esteem is just a balance between things that make you feel good, and things that make you feel bad. If you feel good more often than you do bad, you will have high self-esteem and vice versa.

So why is this important? Well many people who suffer from low levels of self-esteem continue to expose themselves to things that make them feel bad. They may hang around with the same people every day who laugh at them, or treat them disrespectfully.

They may talk to themselves in a way that lacks respect, such as saying they are a looser or that they can’t do anything. Or they may do other things which day by day make them feel the same way.

 

Change Your Life, Change Your Thoughts

So the key here is change. If you are able to identify the things that make you feel bad, and replace them with the things that make you feel good, ultimately your self-esteem will improve. You won’t have to try to improve and build up your self-esteem, it will just happen automatically.

This principle of change is so simple it is often overlooked, because people become used to doing the same things day in day out. The trouble with this is that by doing the same things every day, your thought patterns remain the same every day and so you FEEL the same every day.

This is the real value and importance of change, which is why sometimes you need to change your life first, before you can change your thoughts.

Change will break your current thought patterns and create new patterns of thought. It is up to you to create patterns that will improve and enrich your life, and you do this by exposing yourself to things that make you feel good about yourself and raise your value as a person.

The Mind-Set of a Leader

 

Words of wisdom from Mr Jack Welch:

 

Understanding that becoming a leader means we will actually have to change how we act. Too often than not, people who are promoted to their leadership position miss that very point… and the failure to do so probably trips up careers more than any other reason.

The fact is, being a leader changes everything.

Before we are a leader, success is all about growing ourselves. Our individual contributions, it is about us raising our hand and us getting called on and us delivering the right answer.

When we become a leader, success is all about growing others. It’s about making the people who work for us smarter, bigger, and bolder. Nothing we do anymore as an individual matters, except how we nurture and support our team and help our members increase their self-confidence. We will get our share of attention from above, but only in as much as our team wins. To describe the other way around, our success as a leader will come not from what we do every day, but from the reflected glory of our team’s performance.

From the ranks, promoted to be a team leader, is a big transition. It’s hard. No doubt about that. Being a leader basically requires a whole new mind-set, one that is constantly not thinking “How can I stand-out”? But is thinking “How can I help my people do their jobs better”?

Sometimes that mind-set requires undoing a couple of decades of momentum. After all, we may have probably spent our entire life, starting in in grade school and continuing through our last job, as an individual contributor, excelling at “raising our hand.”

But the good news is, we were probably promoted because someone above in the organization believes we have the stuff to make the leap from star player to a successful coach.

That leap actually involve actively mentoring people. Giving feedback at every opportunity, not just annual or semi-annual. We should talk to our people about their performance after meetings, presentations, or visits to clients. Make every significant event a teaching moment, discussing with them what we like about what they are and doing ways they can improve. There is no need to sugarcoat our exchanges, use a total candor which happens incidentally to be one of the defining characteristics of effective leaders.

Getting into the skin of our people is another way of growing others. Exude positive energy about life and the work that we are doing together, show optimism about our future, and care. Care passionately about each person’s performance and progress. Our energy will energize those around us.

Being a leader, it’s not about us anymore. It’s about them.