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From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 4 of 4)

We can change our attitude from I CAN’T to I CAN! Do not forget to read the previous parts of the article:

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 1 of 4)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 2 of 4)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 3 of 4)

 

Continuation:

 

Will you think of some opportunity or possibility in your life right now that would require you to bring a can-do attitude? An attitude of assumed confidence rather than presumed incompetence?

For at least next week I encourage you to be on the lookout for signs of your inner “can’t” voice.

When you hear that voice whispering all the reasons why you can’t do something, begin to consciously and intentionally shift your focus to the much softer “can” voice.

Shift your perception from can’t to can, from fear to fun, from no to yes.

The Beginner’s Mind

In Buddhism there is a term, Beginner’s Mind that encourages practitioners to bring an empty mind, free of any preconceptions, to each new experience they encounter.

Bar the possibility of attaining that level of emptiness. I want to encourage you to cultivate and nurture an attitude and perception of optimism.

Take a moment, right now. Imagine how different your life if you approach it with a different attitude.

“I Can” instead of an attitude of “I Can’t” or even “I may be able to.”

Just imagine

Imagine that, like those little kids being guided down the slope by a nurturing, supportive ski instructor. You had been blessed with a “life instructor.”

The instructor who instilled in you the truth, the feeling, the knowledge that anything you want to do, you can!

How would that feel? How would that change the way you approach your life? If you knew that you could not fail, what project would you take on?

If you knew that you could only succeed at whatever you attempted, how would your life be different?

 

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From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 3 of 4)

We can do it! Read the two first part of the article below:

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 1 of 4)

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 2 of 4)

 

Continuation:

 

“I can do this. This is going to be easy. Sure it may take some time. Yeah I’ll need to learn some new skills, but I know I can do it.”

The interesting thing

The interesting thing about these two attitudes is that there is no difference in the potential outcome. In either case, when you are trying something new, you will either do it or you won’t do it. You will either succeed or fail.

When you approach something with an “I can’t” attitude more often than not, you match or meet your expectations by failing. You are predetermined, if you will, to fail, and so, you usually will. Occasionally, you surprise yourself when you succeed.

I know there have been many. More than I care to remember. A lot of times when I have turned away from an opportunity. Just because I was afraid I would fail, I was afraid of not doing it well.

Often, I was not even aware of that fear. It was hidden deep in my psyche, running the show from the background.

The I CAN attitude

I’d rather see us approach new things with the attitude of “I can.”

With that perspective, with a predisposition to success, we’ll find that most of the time we match our expectations by discovering that we can do it, we can succeed.

And when, on the rare occasion, we fail. But we’ll recognize the opportunity to learn. Then accept that we just were not meant to succeed at that particular task.

How about you?

Can you think of opportunities that you have passed up because you were doubtful of your ability to succeed? Can you think of times when you have avoid doing something you really want? Just because you feel you will are not good at it?

 

(TO BE CONTINUED)

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From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 2 of 4)

Of course you can! Read the first part of the article below.

From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 1 of 4)

 

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She gave me a very cute, determined nod of her head, turned back to her bottle. And sure enough, with just another 15 seconds of effort, she pulled that bottle out. Then took a nice long drink.

Now here’s the interesting part. Later on that same walk, I notice her reach down casually. I’m not even sure she take a good look. And pull the bottle out of the pocket. It is as if she have always know how to do it and there was nothing simpler in the world.

Just that one learning experience had shifted her entire perception. Instead of questioning her ability to succeed, she now knew from experience that she could do it. And that knowledge enabled her to do it easily and effortlessly.

Can do attitude in real life as an adult

It brings me to now, to us, to you and me and to the attitudes and perceptions. We bring to our projects and pursuits and to our entire lives.

We are surrounded by taglines and clichés extolling the virtues of positive perceptions, “Just do it.” “Can-do attitude.” Etc.

And yet, my personal experience and my observations of others suggest that very few of us approach life with the perspective of “can-do.”

A lot of times, we usually approach life with the attitude of “I’ll stick with what I know.”

We tend to avoid attempting something new. It is because our core belief tells us that, at worst, we can’t do it. And at best, it will be a struggle.

We approach new projects, jobs, relationships, anything that has not previously been proven possible with a doubting attitude, an attitude of “I can’t do this,” or, “this is going to be difficult,” instead of approaching it with the attitude of someone who knows they can do it.

 

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From I CAN’T To I CAN (Part 3 of 4)

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Character or Reputation?

Character and reputation

Political and church leaders, actors and actresses, singers, writers, athletes, professors, engineers, doctors, lawyers and practically everyone  are undoubtedly concerned about their REPUTATION. Although they may not be even aware of what it truly means.

Even if we give high regards to integrity and dignity as values taught everywhere in the world, we have been continuously startled by news of moral downfalls.

We’ve all heard of government officials being persecuted, famous professional athletes linked to drug usage, popular actors involved in crimes, businessmen proven to have committed unethical practices, and preachers not measuring up to what is expected from them.

Sadly, the list seems endless.

More than ever, there is a necessity for us to instill in ourselves not just good reputation, but more importantly, good character. Most of us are so concerned about our image. On how others may look at us. Let me make this clear though.

I am not saying there is something wrong in assuring that we maintain a good image. A learned person knows better not to give more importance to reputation than his character. There is a big distinction between the two.

Character VS Reputation

William Hersey Davis has this to tell us:

The circumstances amid which you live determine your reputation…
The truth you believe determines your character…
Reputation is what you are supposed to be…
Character is what you are…
Reputation is the photograph;
Character is the face…
Reputation is made in a moment;
Character is built in a lifetime…
Reputation is learned in an hour;
Character does not come to light for a year…
Reputation grows like a mushroom;
Character lasts like eternity…
Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor;
Character makes you happy or makes you miserable…
Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone;
Character is what the angels say about you…

Final thoughts

We must be able to master ourselves by knowing both our internal and external characteristics. Some people cannot see beyond the appearance, but the few who can see the importance of inner beauty are more sensible.

Let us rear an honest heart. It calls for conquering our weaknesses, fears, faults and other undesirable traits. Let us wage a war against our own faults because once we know what we are fighting against, then that will lead us to take the necessary steps in order to overcome such imperfections.

What particular aspects must be given more attention to develop an ideal attitude? The answer is good deeds, because they endure.

They are therefore more important than mere kind words and praises that may pass away like a wind that blows and constantly moves. By developing a good character, you also win for yourself a good reputation.

 

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Attitude Is A Really Big Thing

A big thing

Regardless of your age, your place in life, your occupation. Nor the ways you choose to spend time. I can guarantee that your attitude is one of the most significant things. Things that do determines your happiness and contentment in life.

Attitude is powerful

Attitude is so powerful. It is one of the few things that every single person has the ability to be in control. Regardless of any other factors in life.

When life is going well and we have no complaints, we can choose what kind of attitude to face each day with. Fortunately, when our lives seem like they couldn’t get any worse, we can also choose what kind of attitude we will have each day.

Can you think about a time in your life when your attitude made all the difference? Or, maybe think of an example from the life of someone you know.

Can you think of a situation when all things looked grim? Yet you or someone else’s attitude made that situation better just by being positive?

The importance

You may be wondering why it is important to keep a good attitude regardless of other factors in your life. Good question. One thing I’ve learned about life is that it will not always go my way.

It is highly unlikely that every single day for the rest of my life will be filled with joy, friendships, and peace. It is possible, but unlikely, much more likely that life will throw me things I wasn’t expecting.

Tragedies, sicknesses, and relationship trials will come my way. It will be my attitude that determines how those events affect me.

It allows us to remember

Keeping a good attitude in life allows us to remember that even in tough times we have much to be thankful for. Choose to let your attitude reflect this perspective. Rather than reflecting the fact that you are not getting exactly what you want at a moment in time.

Let your attitude reflect all of the ways that your life has been blessed and all of the good things that have happened to you.

We have all heard it said that “attitude is a little thing that can make a big difference.”

I agree with whoever said those words wholeheartedly, but I’ll even take it a step further and simply say that attitude is a big thing.

Attitude is perhaps one of the biggest factors that determines the path and results we see in life. When we can look at the worst situations with hope and a right perspective. Nothing will be too difficult to bear.

 

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