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Sometimes, we are more likely to change our opinion of ourselves because someone that we respect has a different viewpoint. Instead of taking their word for it, we must evaluate their opinion as objectively as possible.
We don’t want to close ourselves off from change. However, we do want to make sure that any change is a conscious choice.
When Did I Choose?
Unfortunately for many, the past controls the present. For others, concerns about the future significantly impact their current view. If the past is controlling us, it is generally in the form of guilt.
In the case of guilt, we don’t feel worthy of success because of what we’ve done or haven’t done. As hard as it may be, we must let go of our feelings of unworthiness.
Additionally, we must forgive anyone for anything that is eating away at us. Unforgiveness doesn’t affect the other person as much as it affects us. In fact, we would be shocked to find out how little time people think about us.
If the future is controlling us, it is generally in the form of anxiety. The Bible tells us with good reason:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God
– Philippians 4:6
The fear of the future
Fear of the future has the ability to immobilize us in the present. More than causing us to be ineffective, guilt and anxiety have been linked to many health risks. These includes heart disease, ulcers, and degraded immune system.
From this, we surmise that the only appropriate time to set our expectations is in the present. While we must consider our experiences and education from the past as well as our dreams and goals for the future, the only time that we can actually take action is now.
The great news in looking up from where we are is that we can change where we’re going.
We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake . . . by an infinite expectation of the dawn, which does not forsake us in our soundest sleep. I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor
– Henry David Thoreau, Walden, from “Where I Lived, and What I Lived For“
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