The Power of Expectations
We will always tend to fulfill our own expectation of ourselves
Going Up is a Direction
As we know, UP is a direction. More importantly, it is a direction that we want to go. The first step in moving UP is to set our sights beyond our current circumstances.
Inherent in the definition of UP is that it never stops. There is always one more rung on the ladder and one more battle to fight. One more person to help, and one more analogy to make. So, wherever we are today, we have room to improve.
The thing that holds us back
What’s holding us back? Our expectations are set too low. That is one of the main things keeping us from achieving more.
When an expectation is set, our minds are so powerful and complex. Our actions immediately begin to line up with that expectation.
Robert K. Merton coined the phrase “self-fulfilling prophecy” to describe this phenomenon in his 1957 book Social Theory and Social Structure. Wikipedia defines a self-fulfilling prophecy as “a prediction that, in being made, actually causes itself to become true”.
What made the difference? The image that she had of herself changed when others treated her differently. Colonel Pickering called her “Miss Doolittle,” which Liza says began to teach her self-respect.
She explained to Colonel Pickering, “The difference between a lady and a flower girl is not how she behaves, but how she’s treated. I shall always be a flower girl to Professor Higgins, because he always treated me as a flower girl, and always will, but I know I can be a lady to you because you always treat me as a lady, and always will.”
We See It Every Day
Most of us have observed the power of expectations with a familiar example. A co-worker mentions to us late in the day that they think that they’re coming down with a cold.
We may respond with something like, “I’ve heard there’s something going around”. We could even say, “You look all right to me”. It really doesn’t matter what we say at that point as the person really expects to get sick.
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