Do not miss out the wonderful recent article:
- Quote: “If you’re in the habit of saying you “hate” things– you “hate” your hair; you “hate” your job; you “hate” having to do something. Do you think this raises the intensity of your negative emotional state than if you used a phrase like “I prefer something else”? End quote.
- Change the phrase from “I hate” to the phrase “I prefer”. Could it be that simple? “I’d prefer an new car”, I’d prefer an new hairdo” I’d prefer a new job”, I’d prefer new clothes”. “I’d prefer to do something else”.
The intensity of those statements dropped big time because you used different words. I know this for a fact. If you simply change your habitual vocabulary, and these would be the words you consistently use to describe your life and your emotions.
If you change your habitual vocabulary you can instantaneously change how think, how you feel and how you LIVE!! I really want to drive this home to you.
You’re Self-Talk that you’re using right now is determining your destiny. Think about that for a second (maybe a little longer). Your words are shaping your beliefs and impacting your actions.
Much of where you are in life right now is due to your Self-Talk. So if you’re using words that are non-empowering. CHANGE THEM to words that will empower you.
How do you know what you’re Self-Talk is?
Simple really. When an event or challenge happens in your life how do you react, what do you say? If you’re saying it out loud you’re probably saying it to yourself, and vice versa.
Here are some examples, and these are from many of the people I speak to on a daily basis. It may be different for you.
When something happens a challenge in your life, do you say to yourself?
“Why does this always happen to me?” or “Why did this have to happen now?”