Do not miss out the first part. Read it here.
Agree to Disagree
Sometimes you’re not going to ever decide that someone was right or wrong. The debate can go on endlessly with each party trying to convince the other. In these cases, it’s best to just acknowledge that you each have different options, and leave it at that.
We don’t always have to agree on things. Just “Agree to Disagree” then change the subject and move on to something else quickly. If you can find a win/win solution to the issue that’s great, however it’s not always possible.
Keep things in perspective. Ask yourself how important the topic of the argument really is in the big picture. It’s so easy to get into a huge argument over what is a trivial thing. Debate becomes more a personal issue of proving something which really doesn’t matter. Be willing to just let it go.
Release the Anger
If you’re holding a lot of anger yourself, find a good way to release it. What works best will be different for each of us.
Some ideas include: talking a walk, go for a bike ride, play a video game, work in the garden, phone a friend, go shopping, take a bath, or anything that will take your mind off it. Time is a great healer.
Never use physical violence against another in anger. If you are doing this you should seek professional help before you hurt someone. If you are the recipient of violent anger, get away from that person, as quick as you can.
With anyone you spend a lot of time with, you should work together towards ending anger. Make a pact to try to avoid this emotion which does your relationship no good.
If you can both become better listeners, it will go a long ways towards reducing anger. People will know they can count on you to listen to them. Anger will otherwise become their tool to get your attention.
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